RK Psychotherapy Counseling-Codependency, Relationship Dependency

Article I was featured in last summer

"Today was a Difficult Day," said Pooh. There was a pause. "Do you want to talk about it?" asked Piglet.... "No," said Pooh after a bit. "No, I don't think I do." "That's okay," said Piglet, and he came and sat beside his friend. "What are you doing?" asked Pooh. "Nothing, really," said Piglet. "Only, I know what Difficult Days are like. I quite often don't feel like talking about it on my Difficult Days either. "But goodness," continued Piglet, "Difficult Days are so much easier when you know you've got someone there for you. And I'll always be here for you, Pooh." And as Pooh sat there, working through in his head his Difficult Day, while the solid, reliable Piglet sat next to him quietly, swinging his little legs...he thought that his best friend had never been more right." A.A. Milne It's a challenging time for us all right now. Sending thoughts to those having a Difficult Day today and hope you have your own Piglet to sit beside you

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"The question I get asked all the time is, "Should my relationship be this difficult?" I think people are looking for me to say, "No, of course not. Relationships should be easy if they are meant to be." But my answer to their question is a firm YES! Yes, your relationship should be this difficult but not for the reasons you're currently experiencing. You see, relationships shouldn't be difficult because of communication issues, problems in the bedroom, differences about mone...y or how to raise the kids - these are some of the reasons that couples experience problems. I believe relationships should be difficult because they ask more of us. A good relationship asks us to be more mindful of ourselves and how we show up with our partners. Good relationships ask us to look at the internal stories or narratives that we create about our partners and ask, is that fair? Is it compassionate? IS IT FORMED OUT OF LOVE? Or IS IT FORMED OUT OF FEAR? A good relationship is challenging because it asks us to take responsibility in places where we might prefer to place blame. We don't see relationships as growth opportunities, and that's where we are getting it wrong. This is why they can feel so hard. I can tell you personally that the most difficult times in my own relationship have also been the most rewarding. They were the moments when my wife asked more of me, to do better, to show up differently, to show up better. It wasn't always easy and I didn't always like it, but it made me a better man and a better husband. Ultimately it has made me a better parent as well. I like to think that I've done the same for her. " Daily OM

"Goals are what you strive for, values are what you die for."

Another take on relationship dependency...

People who think they have no choice make bad choices.