Turning Point Therapy

Sometimes, growing up with a lack of attention to our needs and feelings, being criticized or having our opinions ridiculed can cause us to keep our feelings to ourselves ~ We can begin to suppress our feelings, meaning that when we do build trust in a relationship, we may end up using opportunities to express ourselves as moments to ‘let it all out’, share more than is needed in that moment, as a result of feeling the need to express everything whilst we have the chance . .... . What do you think? Does this resonate? Check out our new YouTube video to delve deeper (link in bio) . . . For more resources, to explore our services and to learn more about our team, please visit our website: counselling-marriage.com . . . #therapy #therapist #relationships #communication #talk #listen #unbridled #expression #counselling #counselors #psychotherapist #rcc #help #support #counsellingvancouver #turningpointtherapy See more

...venting, complaining, whining, self-absorption ~ Just a few of the names we might have for it. It is very important that we feel able to share and express ourselves with those closest to us, but it is equally important for us to consider the effect we may be having on our loved one’s when we do not give them the choice in the matter ~ When we force them to give us this attention and to receive this type of self-expression, we are showing very little regard and respect to t...heir own situation . . . What do you think? Curious to delve deeper? Check out our new YouTube video: https://counselling-marriage.com/blog-youtube/ . . . For more resources, to explore our services and to learn more about our team, please visit our website: counselling-marriage.com See more

Here is my latest video in the series on the 5 losing strategies we have in communication with our partners. It is one that I have often used and so know first hand what was behind it - for me anyway - and the impact on others. Hope you find it helpful. ... We can change these strategies. Let us help you. You can book an appointment through our website. Many blessings, Delyse https://youtu.be/x5YwPRUVxfM

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We become vigilant to behaviour in others that represent our past trauma ~ We are on high alert because our nervous system carries a sense of danger around things we perceive that remind us of the past ~ This can be difficult in relationships because it leads to experiencing our partner as a threat and reacting from that place... ~ It is very hard to not react to those triggers - it is human, but working on this reactivity is important in developing intimacy in a relationship ~ Trusting each other is knowing in those difficult moments, you each have each other’s wellbeing at heart . . . Want to explore more? Check out our YouTube channel for support and resources (link in bio) . . For more info and support on and around relationships, please visit our website: counselling-marriage.com . . . #expression #vigilance #partner #relationships #selfesteem #discomfort #security #fear #communication #truth #openness #connection #help #support #wellness #wellbeing #mentalhealth #therapy #therapist #counsellor #counselling #psychotherapy #vancouvercounselling #counsellingvancouver #turningpointtherapy

This pressure to have the same feelings, do things the same way, have the same opinions etc is common in relationships as a way of avoiding the discomfort of being our own person ~ This often relates to fears of abandonment and separation as well as our self-esteem being affected ~ These dynamics go deep into our psyche and past experiences... . . . Looking to dive deeper Check out our YouTube channel for support and resources (link in bio) . . For more info and support on and around relationships, please visit our website: counselling-marriage.com . . . #expression #partner #relationships #selfesteem #discomfort #security #fear #communication #truth #openness #connection #help #support #wellness #wellbeing #mentalhealth #therapy #therapist #counsellor #counselling #psychotherapy #vancouvercounselling #counsellingvancouver #turningpointtherapy

Beautiful words and colours by @morganharpernichols ~ Notice the quiet times, enjoy the ebb and flow, embrace the space in between the busyness ~ The ‘slow’ chapters of your life are just as important as your ‘fast’ chapters... . . . #space #slow #mindful #acceptance #ebbandflow #reflection #feel #journey #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #life See more

The simplicity and the power of pausing and noticing ~ Being able to turn towards ourselves and change our relationship with ourselves is what speaks strongly ~ We are so often looking for someone else to be different or hold them responsible for how we feel and experience the world when our empowerment comes from within... ~ Even in the limitations of our circumstances . . . Check out our YouTube channel for support and resources (link in bio) . . For more info and support on and around relationships, please visit our website: counselling-marriage.com . . . #space #relationships #pause #simplicity #notice #communication #truth #openness #connection #help #support #wellness #wellbeing #mentalhealth #therapy #therapist #counsellor #counselling #psychotherapy #vancouvercounselling #counsellingvancouver #turningpointtherapy

One of the main functions of boundaries is what we let in and what we let out ~ This is not automatic, it happens in every moment and changes in every moment because we make that choice ~ Choice might be another word for boundary... ~ Boundaries are flexible because our choice is flexible ~ When we don’t give ourself and others choice we have to rely on rules and boundaries become rigid . . . Curious to explore more? Check out our YouTube channel (link in bio) . . For more info and support on and around relationships, please visit our website: counselling-marriage.com . . . #boundaries #relationships #communication #truth #openness #connection #help #support #wellness #wellbeing #mentalhealth #therapy #therapist #counsellor #counselling #psychotherapy #vancouvercounselling #counsellingvancouver #turningpointtherapy

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Being afraid of what others will say or do can prevent us from telling our truth ~ Relationships become distant and avoidant when we cannot be honest ~ This leads to relationships that become deadened... ~ Our fear believes that it is better to withhold our truth than risk rejection . . . Want to explore more? Check out our YouTube channel (link in bio) . . For more info and support on and around relationships, please visit our website: counselling-marriage.com . . . #boundaries #relationships #communication #truth #openness #connection #help #support #wellness #wellbeing #mentalhealth #therapy #therapist #counsellor #counselling #psychotherapy #vancouvercounselling #counsellingvancouver #turningpointtherapy

~ We feel each other without taking on too much ~ We can know ourself in the face of the other’s difference ~ We can hear criticism and judgment with discernment ~ We can stand up for ourself without being defensive ~ We can make choices that are honest... . . . These are some of the ways that good boundaries show up. Connection with others is deeper and so is our connection to ourself . . Check out our YouTube channel (link in bio) . . Visit us at counselling-marriage.com for more information and resources on relationships . . #boundaries #relationships #communication #openness #help #support #wellness #wellbeing #mentalhealth #therapy #therapist #counsellor #counselling #psychotherapy #vancouvercounselling #counsellingvancouver #turningpointtherapy

Thank you @the_lighthouseblog for these fantastic resources! . . Accounts, links and podcasts to keep learning! .... . . . #mentalhealth #blackmentalhealth #awareness #education #learning See more

Examples of absolutes: ~ I never want _____to happen again ~ I’m never going to let someone do ______ again . .... These come from our past when we were hurt. Another common absolute is: ~ No-one is ever going to control me . . Often, people with controlling tendencies grew up with parents who were controlling. When we think in absolutes, we will more easily feel anger and resentment when those things happen, and a need to eradicate that behaviour - which is impossible . . . ...curious to know more? Watch our latest video on YouTube (link in bio) . . . You can also visit our website for more help and guidance: https://counselling-marriage.com/ . . . #control #relationships #communication #openness #help #support #wellness #wellbeing #mentalhealth #therapy #therapist #counsellor #counselling #psychotherapy #vancouvercounselling #counsellingvancouver #turningpointtherapy

To change controlling behaviour, practice noticing when you become insistent on your request being met ~ Your partner has the right to not meet your need, to not be interested in the same thing, to not be available, to have a different opinion . .... . ...need more information and support? Watch our latest video on YouTube (link in bio) . . . You can also visit our website for more help and guidance: https://counselling-marriage.com/ . . . #control #relationships #communication #openness #help #support #wellness #wellbeing #mentalhealth #therapy #therapist #counsellor #counselling #psychotherapy #vancouvercounselling #counsellingvancouver #turningpointtherapy

Thank you @men_to_heal for this image! ~ Being uncomfortable is part of growth - getting comfortable with experiencing discomfort is part of the process ~ Being able to listen to other ideas, opinions and experiences, and acknowledging and subsequently changing one’s view or opinion in response to new information and knowledge is perfectly normal... ~ Learning leads to change and progress . . . #learning #unlearning #listening #amplifymelanatedvoices #blackvoices #blacktherapist See more

The truth is no-one can control us - unless they have a gun to our heads or physically over-power us ~ Even the presence of violence and lack of resources that might communicate that we have no choice, we have choice to leave, get help, even if that looks bleak ~ It is hard and takes immense courage to stand up to power, but it can be done... ~ Giving in does not make you safer or create a connection . . . ...need more information and support? Watch our latest video on YouTube (link in bio) . . . You can also visit our website for more help and guidance: https://counselling-marriage.com/ . . . #control #relationships #communication #help #support #wellness #wellbeing #mentalhealth #therapy #therapist #counsellor #counselling #psychotherapy #vancouvercounselling #counsellingvancouver #turningpointtherapy