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If you are struggling with alcohol go to www.AA.org. If you are struggling with living with someone who is misusing alcohol or other substance try www.ALANON.org. If you are struggling with the affects of coming from a dysfunctional family (that's everyone) go to www.ACOA.org There are still in person meetings going on in some cities, and there are always online or phone meetings. Please reach out and take care of yourself. We tend to isolate at the best of times, so if you find yourself feeling isolated, remember there is help out there for you at any time of day. Stay safe and take care of yourself. From a fellow ALNON and ACOA member.

The Negativity Thermostat: Why Adjusting the Temperature Early Can Save Your Relationship Later The secret to keeping things comfortable is to address the uncomfortable issues that pull you two apart. The relationship thermostat... In my relationship, my thermostat has a burning point of volcanic anger and a freezing point of ice-cold distance and indifference. When I am too hot, I am critical, defensive, and contemptuous. I become emotionally flooded and say things I don’t believe about my partner and our relationship. It’s like my body is on fire and if my partner gets closer, I’ll burn her. When I am too cold, I preoccupy myself with work and offer less spontaneous acts of affection throughout the day. I ask less questions and keep to myself more. And when my partner expresses something, I am less engaged. At my freezing point, I appear apathetic when she is hurting. That is not the partner she needs in those painful moments. My spouse has her own hot and cold points, but with different behaviors. Luckily for us, we rarely get to these extremes because those temperature points are difficult and painful. One of the hard lessons we had to learn to keep our emotional connection temperature at a more loving level was the importance of addressing things earlier. By Kyle Benson January 12, 2021

Change Takes Time Be Patient with Yourself and Others.

Understand and Build Intimacy What is intimacy? Intimacy is closeness between people in personal relationships. Intimacy builds over time. Its a connectiin with someone, as you both grow to care about each other.... First things first: Intimacy isn’t synonymous with sex and it shouldn’t be reserved purely for sexual or romantic partners either. Sex and romance may come to mind first, but intimacy plays a role in other types of relationships too! Relationships with family, friends, and other trusted individuals all include elements of intimacy. Intimacy means different things to different people. Your specific idea of intimacy may be influenced by your interests, communication style, or preferred ways to get to know someone. Also, intimacy falls into several different categories, including: Emotional, Intellectual, Physical, Experiential and Spiritual. Plus our intimate relationships are based on Trust Acceptance Honesty, Safety, Compassion, Affection and Communication. There’s a reason why good communication is so often named as the key to a healthy relationship. When you make an effort to listen to your partner and tell them how you feel, understanding can build for each other. And the more you understand each other, the closer you become. Thank for listening and please feel free to share this post with your friends. Reach out if you would like to know how to communicate better in any and all relationships. I am here to help. Alicia Jerome Mental Health Counseling at 4033183216

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