Angela Slade Counselling

In response to Covid_19 I successfully transferred all my clients to secure and encrypted Telehealth (video sessions) this week. Anyone can now book from anywhere appointments directly from my web-site homepage www.angelaslade.com For Healthcare professionals, first responders, grocery store employees, and those out there serving us during this pandemic - we thank you. You are doing your part. I’d like to do mine, by supporting you or your family members with short-term, ...reduced fee sessions. Please contact me directly at [email protected] As a Registered Clinical Counsellor, some may have health benefits they can access during this difficult time. Crime Victim Services Clients are approved for accessing telehealth and ICBC and WCB are working on case by case decisions at this time. After speaking with some of my clients last week, I know this situation is having an impact on people’s thoughts and emotions in varying degrees. I am here to support. Please feel free to share this information. Thank you, Angela

I am sharing a self-care routine I use in some of my workshops. One way I want to give to others this year is by sharing some of the content I’ve developed over my years teaching and counselling. Happy New Year. Feel free to share this. Let’s get started with a quick and easy definition of self-care. selfcare // activities and practices we engage in on a regular basis to reduce stress and enhance our well-being....Continue reading

Profound words from Anthony Hopkins: ''Let go of people who aren't ready to love you yet. This is the hardest thing you'll have to do in your life and it will a...lso be the most important thing. Stop giving your love to those who aren't ready to love or appreciate you yet. Stop conversations with people who don't want to change. Stop showing up for, and showing care for people who are indifferent to your presence; who display temperamental emotions; who show disrespect or block you out and keep you at bay, despite your best efforts. Those people have narrow perspectives and small hearts. I know your instincts attempt everything to win the good mercy of those around you, but it's also this impulse that will steal your time, energy and mental, physical and spiritual health. When you start manifesting yourself in your life, completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to find you in this place of pure sincerity. That doesn't mean that you have to change who you are; or play yourself down to suit the judgements projected onto you by those who do not care . It just means you have to stop bothering with people who don't want to love you yet. When you are excluded, subtly offended, forgotten or easily ignored by people you give time to, you don't do yourself any favour by allowing them your energy and your life. The truth is that you're not for everyone... And that not everyone is for you... That makes this world so special is, when you find the few people you have friendship, love or a true relationship with - you will know how valuable that is. Because you have experienced what isn't... There are billions of people on this planet, and many of them will end up with you, on their level, with their vibration, from where they stand. And many will love and care for you unconditionally. But the smaller you stay, involved in the privacy of people who use you as background option, the more time you stay out of the community you deserve and which deserves you. If you stop showing up, you might be less wanted... If you stop trying, the relationship might stop... If you stop texting, your phone may stay quiet because there will be no initiating from those you try to maintain closeness with. Maybe if you stop showing love towards someone, the connection between you may dissolve... That doesn't mean you ruined a relationship.. That means that all that this relationship had was the energy that ‘only you’ hire - to keep it in the air. That is wanting to give a chance to those who don't want it...or who don’t value it, due to their own hidden agendas or disconnection from their core compassion. The most valuable and most important thing you have in your life is your energy. Its not just your time because it's limited...It's your energy. What you give every day is what will become more and more in your life. It's the ones you give time and energy (who respond to you in like fashion) that will define your existence. When you realize this, you start to understand why you are become impatient when you spend your time with people who don't suit you, and in activities, places, situations which don't suit you. You're starting to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and for everyone you know, is to protect your energy stronger than anything. Turn your life into a safe sanctuary where only '' compatible '' people with you are allowed. It's not your job to exist for people and give them your life, little by little, moment after moment. Decide you deserve a true friendship. Wait then... just a minute...and look how everything is starting to change..." Anthony Hopkins Love this #kindness

Many of us learned that love was conditional. We had to work for it since e were children. Many of us had to perform, to prove we were ‘good,’ or we had to comp...letely deny our own emotions in order to cope with our environment. We learned that love or approval could leave at any moment. So, we learned to state our case. To over explain. To over apologize. We learned to rationalize our ‘why’ + attempt to make another person see our side of things because at our core we are afraid. Afraid of being abandoned. I often find myself over-explaining or wanting to over explain myself. I witness my mind coming up with dozens of reasons to support my case when I set a boundary. I witness myself reading a comment about me or my work online + I see my mind desperate to defend the truth as I see it. I see my inner child afraid that not good enough. This is when we default to defense + explanation. This is the best time to practice. The truth is we do not need to defend our worth. We do not need to defend our truth. We do not need to apologize for our limits, our needs, our ambition, or dreams, or our desires even when it brings up insecurities in those around us. With healing, with developed self-trust + confidence comes less explaining + more BEING. Sovereign being. Some reminders when you feel the urge to over-explain: 1. Boundaries are your right. People who guilt or shame you for your boundaries are struggling with their own abandonment wounding 2. Your reality + truth is always valid simply because you’ve experienced it 3. People project their own sense of self + unresolved pain onto others (this is part of the human experience) personalizing this pain is a choice that can be un-learned 4. People with high self worth respect the needs of others because they respect their own needs 5. Inner child wounding can create a scenario where 2 adults become children: practice self forgiveness + grace #selfhealers

It’s almost over....let’s hear some of your positives as we say good-bye to a difficult year!