Bayridge Counselling Center Oakville
345 Lakeshore Rd. East L6J 1J5 Oakville, ON, Canada

And let's give ourselves the same tender touch

A reminder that this anxiety on-line group begins TOMORROW evening!! It is sponsored by Bayridge Counselling centres, so that it is zero cost for you. I just talked to the director and we have 2 more spaces available. Click on the link or call directly to book your spot. Anxiety is the number one pain that we are experiencing globally. This will give you new tools to manage and shift your anxiety to feel more at ease. ... We are here to help you move forward at your pace for your peace, Your Bayridge Counselling Centres Team

When we experienced childhood emotional neglect, where the adults around us did not provide for our emotional needs, it hurts. As an adult this could look like having a hard time asking for help, and feeling really uncomfortable with receiving help. Many of us may have adapted to become people pleasers, which essentially is how we 'earn' love as a child; we do things to make others around us happy in hopes to make ourselves happy. This is different that being kind and thoughtful, for this puts the power in another persons had to determine our self worth, how we feel about ourselves and we can live painful lives tolerating things that are not good for us. And the reason why we do this in part is because this is all we know, and we do not know any other way of living.

Acknowledging the past or a present moment is a powerful tool in healing, in grieving, in bringing closure. Just make sure you have the right vehicle as you dri...ve through that lane. The right vehicle makes space for more compassionate self-talk patterns. The right vehicle allows your shame to fade so you can look at situations more objectively. I hope you continue to accept personal responsibility without shame. It's a great practice. In the Build Your Boundaries course, we talk about building healthy emotional boundaries. Join the course at buildyourboundaries.net Last chance, I’m hosting a bonus call tonight where I’ll be teaching all about boundaries. The link is in my bio to register!

Life can be harsh and people can be cruel making us believe things about ourselves that are not true. The truth? The day you were born your value was equal to every other human. Sure each of us have differences which makes us unique though our value is exactly the same as anyone else's. And another truth is that there is nothing we can do to lose our value or gain more value. So take rest in these words today and be mindful of the words you are thinking about yourself, and start saying affirming things to you to reprogram your mind and spirit. And we are here to help you, Your Bayridge Counselling Centres Team

This is how we give empathy to another person that is sharing their struggle. Often we want to jump in and go to 'fix it' mode, other times we want to help by sharing our stories, and other times if what they are upset with is something we did we dismiss or get defensive. To emotionally validate is to let another person know that they matter, and that we see them; and when we feel heard, nurtured then we feel so much better. This is how we cultivate incredible healthy relatio...nships, where we honor each other and keep each other safe. Know we do not have to agree with the other persons thoughts because some have said that they cannot validate because they do not agree with what the other person is saying; empathy through emotional validation does not require agreement of thoughts, rather is being a detective to discern what emotions they are feeling and naming them with an empathic tone. Here to help you with the stuck parts in your life, Your Bayridge Counselling Centres Team

Don't forget the value of taking time to rest.