Cara Taylor

Emotions are meant to be felt, not fixed. Emotions are not a problem to be solved. Emotions are meant to be felt and experienced in the safety of relationship. If we approach other people and try to find a solution for difficult emotions we create problems, not solve them. When we change our goal from finding a solution to simply connecting and understanding, we help people experience their emotions in a safe space. This is what helps us heal. It’s also a huge relief to know we don’t have to have to solve peoples’ problems to help them.

A beautiful, powerful quote by @hannahdblum

This needs to be said.

Here is a quick check in to determine if a boundary needs to be established: are both my needs and the other person’s needs being considered? If the other person is not considering your needs and you are not voicing what you need, a boundary is needed. If you are only considering what you need without seeking to understand what the other person needs, a boundary is needed. The premise underlying healthy boundaries is this: both our needs matter equallyyour needs are not more important than mine, just like my needs are not more important than yours.

We don’t always acknowledge how heavy hope can be. When you have lived through the pain of disappointment upon disappointment upon disappointment, hope can actually become quite painful, bordering on unbearable. Especially seeing others have what you so deeply desire. So I just wanted to take a moment for all the people with aching hearts, bravely holding hope despite the pain it brings. That’s pretty incredible.

Providing for your family means more than just earning money to provide them with housing, food, clothing and the like. This is important of course, but so is providing emotionally. This means helping each other process and regulate difficult feelings, being present day to day, connecting with each other in meaningful ways, talking openly about all sorts of thoughts and feelings. This type of provision is so often undervalued especially when one partner is providing financially and another is doing more emotional provision. Both are crucial to the well-being of your family. Let’s value and appreciate the hard, hard work of creating emotional safety in our homes.