Bryn Bamber

Is your procrastination actually programming by the patriarchy? I was recently chatting with a friend who’s starting an AMAZING business and was beating herself up for procrastinating. She was saying, I do everything for everyone else QUICKLY but can’t do it for myself. Maybe I’m just not MOTIVATED ENOUGH.... I said, I don’t think that’s it. Women have been told to SIT DOWN, SHUT UP and TAKE CARE OF EVERYONE ELSE’S needs for CENTURIES. We’ve ALSO been told: work super hard taking care of everyone else needs and DON’T YOU DARE ask for payment. Don’t be SELFISH! It might feel like you’re unmotivated but it might actually be because you’re trying to swim up a WATERFALL. ASK: What from patriarchy and/or white supremacy and/or ableism and/or classism and/or homophobia and/or transphobia and/or other forms of oppression could be making this difficult? YOU’RE NOT BROKEN. THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. But there is a CURRENT THAT’S FLOWING AGAINST YOU. The more you bring awareness to the TRUTH about why you don’t feel motivated today, the more you can see that you are STRONG and GOOD and MOTIVATED ENOUGH and begin to heal from the systemic oppression you’ve experienced. And if you want to work with a mental health professional who’s operating from the premise YOU ARE NOT BROKEN and if you’re not moving towards your dreams as quickly as you want to, it’s probably because there’s some TRUTH TELLING and healing that needs to be done, reach out. We’ll set aside an hour just for you to talk about your dreams, what might be holding you back and what’s going to best support you to move forward. HEALING OPPRESSION STARTS WITH HEALING YOURSELF. Let’s go!!

Trying to get rid of the inner critic completely is painful because it doesn’t ever completely go away. That’s because your brain is a 40,000 year old piece of technology and the looking for danger function started in cave people times to keep people safe from lions and poison berries. So when your brain says, You suck! Who do you think you are?! You’re greedy! ... You can say, I have a human brain that comes with an inner critic already installed. Nothing has gone wrong here. And if that doesn’t ease the emotional pain, you likely need to do what Emily and Amelia Nagoski call completing the stress cycle. To naturally complete a stress cycle you can: - move your body (from walking to yoga to exercise) - have a positive social interaction (from complimenting your baristas earrings to texting a bestie) - 20 second hug (hugging until your body softens) - deeper breathing - creativity (art, dance, acting, creative writing etc) All of the above work and you get to experiment to figure out what works best for you . Thanks to @enagoski @burnoutbookgroup @amelianagoski for this amazing info. And if this is something you struggle with feel free to reach out. When I work on this with my clients they are able to: - Quit a job they hate and start a successful business that’s aligned with their passions - Fall in love - Make major health improvements - Meet a money goal at a faster timeline than expected - Find a dream job - And more... So if you want help working with your inner critic so you can reach your sacred goals, feel free to reach out <3. #innerchild #innerchildwork #mindset #goal #goalsetting #impossiblegoal #rant #healthyboundaries #guilt #shame #vulnerability #selfcare #mentalhealth #healing #transformation #anxiety #reducestress #stress #personaldevelopment #selfhelp #girlboss #femaleentrepreneur #entrepreneurlife #witchesofinstagram #spirituality #spirituallife

I’m postponing the Sacred Goal Challenge by 2 weeks so we’ll start APRIL 10th. I want to apologize to those of you who this impacts. I know some of you are navigating childcare and other challenges so this is not a decision I made lightly. Here’s why: 1. Confusion... I’ve been getting questions about the Sacred Goal FB Group vs the Sacred Goal CHALLENGE and I realized I haven’t done a good job explaining the difference. Read more here - https://brynbamber.com//postponed-2-weeks-sacred-goal-gro/ (LINK IN BIO) #entrepreneurlife #femaleentrepreneur #girlboss #toronto #you #hsp #infj #witchesofInstragram #canada #highlysensitive #highlysensitiveperson #healing #growth #personaldevelopment #reducestress #anxiety #selfcare #successtips #instacanada #somatics

This fall my grandpa called me and offered to give me their Toyota Yaris. Initially I said that I’d think about it. I didn’t have a car and wasn’t sure I wanted one. I didn’t know if I wanted to take on the costs of insurance and gas. I live in a house with a driveway and the Yaris is small, so perfect for city driving, but I wasn’t sure. ... I think it’s because I haven’t always been good at receiving. I’d brush off compliments and try to do things on my own. But slowly and surely I’ve been trying to shift that. To let others help me, to receive gifts with grace, to allow myself to be taken care of. So I decided to say yes. I stretched my receiving muscle so the muscle could grow. So that I can let more of what I want into my life. And it shifted something energetically. I received beautiful gifts over the holidays that were initially hard to take in but I practiced relaxing into it. I practiced feeling grateful. If receiving is hard for you and you want more money or love or care in your life, this is changeable. Like any shift, you can take baby steps, practice saying thank you when someone gives you a compliment. Or saying yes when a friend offers to pick up some groceries for you. Step by step you’ll grow that muscle. And step by step you’ll be able to welcome in more money, love and care into your life. P.S. This is the EXACT work I do with clients, we’ll look at what patterns and habits from childhood have led to your lack of receiving and explore how we can shift them. If you’d like a free hour with me to talk all about this with me, message me and we can set up a free consultation .

The past 12 months have been incredibly challenging with the pandemic, continued racial injustice, instability in the economy and unprecedented natural disasters. It’s February and it’s a lockdown so it makes sense that there's an impact on your mental health. And that’s exactly why I’ve partnered with @WomenWhoFreelanceCA to put on a workshop to discuss the mental health impacts of these last 12 months, and how to begin to heal. You'll learn:... * what to do when you feel anxious or depressed * simple strategies to feel better * that you're not alone in the mental health challenges you're facing * and how to process the impacts of both mild and more severe PTSD Join us next Tuesday at 6 pm EST. Workshop is open to all who identify as female. Tickets are by donation and all donations will be forwarded to Black Mental Health Matters (www.blackmentalhealthmatters.ca). Register here - https://www.eventbrite.ca/e/mental-health-for-freelancers-t Link in bio!! #boundaries #healthyboundaries #innerchild #innerchildwork #mindset #goal #goalsetting #impossiblegoal #selfcare #mentalhealth #healing #transformation #anxiety #reducestress #stress #personaldevelopment #selfhelp #girlboss #femaleentrepreneur #entrepreneurlife #witchesofinstagram #spirituality #spirituallife #infj #hsp #highlysensitiveperson

If you are sensitive, scrolling on social media is overwhelming for your nervous system. When you see posts that make you feel inspired then angry then jealous then happy then sad all back to back, it’s too much to process at once. So your nervous system goes numb. Then all this unprocessed emotion is DRAINING for you and this is part of what’s holding you back from achieving your sacred goals.... Consider cutting back or quitting entirely. Save your precious energy for your healing and what you’re meant to create in the world.

One of my favourite ways to punish myself is to set an impossible goal and then berate myself when I don’t achieve it. Or other times, I’d reach a goal and immediately double it, spending no time feeling accomplished or proud of myself. It’s the same way I used to be attracted to people who weren’t interested in me or who were a little bit mean.... If someone was kind hearted and genuinely interested, I’d find them BORING and chase after someone less available. What if you could develop a sacred relationship with goal setting? What if moving towards your goal could feel LOVING and moves you TOWARDS becoming the person you want to be? If you’d like to explore these questions more deeply, we can set up a free one hour consultation to talk about your sacred goals and what will support you to get there. Message me to set this up.

And that’s why I’ve partnered with @womenwhofreelanceca to put a FREE or by donation Mental Health Workshop. This Tuesday at 6 pm EST. Open to all who identify as female and non binary folks . If you have a question you want answered in the workshop, comment below or message me .

When you grow up experiencing trauma, you learn that healthy boundaries don’t work. You probably, at one point, said no in a way that was clear and direct and it didn’t work. So you learned other ways to get your needs met as best you could. Maybe you’re still in that paradigm now believing that healthy boundaries don’t work because, in the past, they didn’t. But you’re working overtime and not taking time off and doing everything for everyone else and wondering why you’re ex...hausted. In this week’s episode of the Burnout to Brilliance podcast, you’ll learn about how the messages you received as a child might be influencing your life now, and how to begin to shift them. Listen here: iTunes - https://itunes.apple.com//burnout-to-brillian/id1440791565 Everywhere else - brynbamber.com/podcast

My mental health is the best it’s ever been, despite the pandemic and the lockdown and the February-ness we’re in right now. A big part of it is because I’ve been working with the same amazing mental health professional for over 3 years. Do I think I should be able to do it on my own now that I’ve worked with her for 3 years?? ... NOOOOOOOOOO!! I want to KEEP learning and growing. And I know I learn and grow best when I have SUPPORT. If you want to keep LEARNING and GROWING and have AMAZING mental health, reach out for help. You can reach out to me or another mental health professional that you trust, but reach out and get the support you need to THRIVE this February. Take the best possible care, Bryn P.S. I can safely say that investing in my mental health are the BEST investments I’ve made. So explore your options and do what’s best for you and your mental health.

You might be finding you set boundaries with friends, and it’s absolutely no problem. But then you do the exact same thing with a family member and it doesn’t work!! When this happens, you’ll need to do what I call Leak-Proofing your boundaries. Here’s an example:... REGULAR BOUNDARY You say, Mom, I don’t want you to comment about how much food I eat. But then your mom comments anyways, just like she always does and you don’t know what to do. Try a LEAK PROOF BOUNDARY: You say, If you comment on how much food I’m eating this week, I’m not going to come to Sunday dinner next week. And then of course, if your mom comments, you have to follow through on your consequence. YOU CAN’T CONTROL YOUR FAMILY (which I totally wish sometimes I could control my family!). But you can 100% control how you react to them. Read more here - https://brynbamber.com//how-to-set-boundaries-with-family/ (LINK IN BIO) #healthyboundaries #anger #frustration #selfcare #mentalhealth #toronto #healing #CoreEnergetics #transformation #canada #anxiety #reducestress #stress #personaldevelopment #selfhelp #girlboss #femaleentrepreneur #entrepreneurlife

It was SOO fun to run the Boundaries Training Camp last week! The #1 place folks needed help setting boundaries was with their family. But I was surprised by the number #2 people needed help setting boundaries: it was with their inner critic! Now boundary setting with your Inner Critic in some ways, is the exact opposite of setting boundaries with family or friends. Because the inner critic is IN YOUR HEAD, you need a completely different strategy.... Let’s start by defining the inner critic. INNER CRITIC: the mean voice in your head BUT ALSO a part of you that’s scared and is trying to protect you in a messed up way. So getting into battle with your inner critic doesn’t work. But there is a way to set boundaries with your inner critic, it’s just not what you think. Okay here are the steps: 1) Write down ALL the things your inner critic is saying. Write them or record them all in a voice note. 2) Ask yourself, out of everything my inner critic is saying: What’s most believable to me? 3) Write this down: It’s safe that I [most believable thought]. It’s safe that I made a mistake at work. It’s safe that I might have moved to the wrong city. It’s safe that I might have been too harsh to my friend. You’re still alive. Your friend is still alive. You can apologize if you want to. It’s safe. P.S. If this resonates with you, I want to offer you some support on healing your relationship with your inner critic. The fastest way to get to heal your relationship with your inner critic, is to work with a mental health professional. So the first step you can take is to jump on a free one hour consultation with me. We’ll do an Inner Critic AUDIT where you’ll get to see how your inner critic is impacting different areas of your life and what would need to change so you can have the career and life that you want! And we’ll explore whether working together is the right fit for you right now. And if at the end of the session, your intuition says it’s NOT the right fit, I promise to completely support you to NOT work with me. (Because it’s not FUN for me to work with clients who don’t want to work with me!) It’s risk free. Message me to set up a consultation today to do the inner critic audit!

Drop an emoji if this thought has ever stopped you from doing what you really want!! It’s definitely stopped me more times than I want to admit... So if this is you and you want to begin to shift, put your hand on your heart and connect with the part of you that’s scared. Tell them that it’s okay for them to be scared. And call on a deeper wiser part of you to protect that scared part.... You’re meant to take care of yourself, you’re meant to go for your dreams and it’s okay if they get mad at you for it. The quote I love the most is: The only people who’ll be upset by your boundaries, are those who benefitted from you having none. -Unknown Protect your time, money and energy. Go for your dreams. And if you want someone who’s 100% on your side as you do this, you can have a free one hour consultation with me where we’ll talk about where you are, where you want to be and what’s getting in the way. The fastest way to actualize your dreams is to work with an expert and my clients find that they quickly get clear on what they really want in their lives and are able to take steps towards making that a reality. So send me a message and we’ll set up a free one hour slot to works towards your dreams! . . . . #2020 #boundaries #healthyboundaries #toronto #canada #hsp #infj #witchesofInstragram #highlysensitive #highlysensitiveperson #anxiety #selfcare #overcoming #personaldevelopment #instatoronto #instacanada #entrepreneurlife #femaleentrepreneur #girlboss #shame #procrastination

Had so much fun on @awomanswhypodcast this week!! We talked about: - our stories of trauma and how we began to heal... - signs of burnout - living at an Ashram, a yogic spiritual community - what it’s like to live with anxiety Listen into hear @hannahrosehocking and I dive into a deep conversation about all things healing . Link in bio .

In the cave people times, if you got kicked out of the group, you would likely die trying to survive on your own. And our brains haven’t evolved from that time period. So our brains are TERRIFIED of offending someone or not being liked by others. So maybe you want to share your art or start a podcast but are terrified to.... In cave people times, the people who survived were the ones who were always looking for danger, looking for the tiger lurking, looking for negativity. So the human brain is trained to always look for the negative. So your brain will tell you things like: you can’t do that. You can’t start a podcast, what will people think!? You can’t sell your art, what will people think!? You can’t make enough money running your own business, it’s not safe?! And if you had challenging experiences or trauma as a child, this only compounds your brain’s alarm system. But the good news is, your human brain is wrong. We live in a different world where for the most part there aren’t tigers lurking around every corner and where you won’t die if someone disagrees with you. You are capable of so much more than your brain wants you to believe. Want to start a stationery business? You can. Want to start a Youtube series? You can. Want to be an artist full time? You can. Want to travel around the world for a year? You can. Your brain will tell you all the reasons you can’t but your brain is a little bit outdated. You actually can do all of this. So what’s your crazy dream? What’s your impossible goal? You can do it. And if you want to get to this goal even faster, the best way is to work with an expert which is why I’m inviting you to take part in a free consultation call with me where we’ll discuss your impossible goal and how Core Energetics can help get you there even faster. My clients find that clearing up old issues from childhood makes it much easier to move towards the life that they want and so I’d love to see if these tools are what will move you even quicker towards the life you’re dreaming of. To schedule a call, send me a message.

If you want to hear my story of finding out at age 29 that I had suppressed trauma and what has helped me the most to heal, join us for the ultimate emotional health summit next week! It’s free and you can learn from over 20 mental health professionals to fill up on positive energy and support your emotional health. Register here - ultimateemotionalhealth.com/Bryn (link in bio!)

If you struggle with imposter syndrome, you have to join us for the next @the.deepspace, a safe space to discuss deep and meaningful topics. And I’m super excited to be letting the ice breaker to get everyone grounded and centred for this conversation . Join us :). Tickets in @the.deepspace bio. Thanks @chantalstaffabb for organizing this important event!! #personaldevelopment #hsp #infj #highlysensitiveperson #impostersyndrome #selfcare #selfcareisforeveryone #girlboss #femaleentrepreneur

Excited to talk about anxiety, trauma and share my personal struggle and how I was able to overcome them at the Emotional Health Summit. It’s a free 3 day event all on improving your emotional health! Join us - ultimateemotionalhealth.com/Bryn (link in bio)

I know it’s early to be putting out holiday content and so some of you might be annoyed BUT if the holidays can at times be difficult for you, you need to keep reading! During the holidays there are so many things to say yes, no or maybe to, and this year we also have the pandemic layered on top of it: different people have different needs about whether events can be in person or online, masks or no masks. So I am putting together a small team of amazing humans to join me in... a FREE Boundaries Training Camp to start building up your boundaries muscles now! You’ll get to: - Do a boundaries AUDIT on your life - Learn about LEAK PROOF boundaries and how to build them. - And have an opportunity to work with me LIVE on what’s blocking you from building healthy boundaries and how to heal Register here - https://mailchi.mp/1fdb79bb2382/boundaries Or send me a private message with any questions you might have!

The holiday season is the Boundaries Olympics. There are events with family and friends and office parties and all sorts of situations where you get to say YES, NO or MAYBE. And this season is going to be even more intense in some ways because we have the pandemic and everyone has different needs and values around that. So I want YOU to prepare for your healthy boundary muscles you’ll need for this season which is why I created the FREE CHALLENGE: Boundaries Training Camp - h...ttps://mailchi.mp/1fdb79bb2382/boundaries !! This training camp will run 5 days, Nov 2nd - 6th and each day you’ll have a challenge to accept to work on building your healthy boundaries. They’ll be a FREE private FB group where we can all cheer each other on as a community and work on building beautiful healthy boundaries so you can protect your TIME, ENERGY and MONEY this holiday season and BEYOND! Join here! - https://mailchi.mp/1fdb79bb2382/boundaries And take the best possible care of yourself, Bryn

Excited to be a guest on the Surviving Life podcast! Holly, the host, has an amazing story of overcoming cancer and has decided to share her story and the story’s of others who’ve gone through challenging situations and who are stronger on the other side of it. In this episode, I share my story of how I found out that I have invisible trauma, a trauma that happened when I was very young and had blocked out all conscious memory of. And I share some of the signs of invisible tr...auma and some of the ways you can begin to heal. Listen here - http://survivinglifepodcast.buzzsprout.com//5900245-surviv

Warren Buffet’s net worth is $80 billion and he only spends $2-3 on breakfast at @McDonalds every morning. If he’s not feeling very prosperous, he goes for the $2 option of two sausage patties stacked on top of each other. This is an example of inner child saving. When a young part of you is scared of spending too much money, so you don’t invest in yourself or in what would bring more value to your life. Other examples could be not investing in a coach or a course that could ...really uplevel your business because you’re scared of the short term impact on your business but aren’t willing to look at the long term impact. If your finances aren’t where they want them to be it’s probably because inner child both SAVING and SPENDING are happening and you’re not allowing yourself to do ADULT saving and spending and investing. I go into ALL the details on this video so make sure you watch to really see when you’re inner child is taking control and how to make better decisions that are still fun from the place of your adult. Watch here - https://youtu.be/XVmzc7eiUbs

Sometimes those who are the most generous, have a hard time receiving both gifts and compliments. It’s important to grow your receiving muscle because you’re going to end up DRAINED and OVERWHELMED if you give and give but aren’t really able to receive. And you’re going be HAPPIER and FULLER OF ENERGY the more you learn to receive.... Here are some baby steps you can take: - When someone gives you a compliment, take a deep breath in and say thank you - If someone offers to pay for dinner or for your coffee, see if you can let them pay and say thank you - If you’re having sex with a partner, practice asking for what you want and receiving Practice building up your RECEIVING muscle so you can have more energy, pleasure, and joy in your life! #selfcaresunday

A lot of my clients have been struggling with over-giving lately, so I wanted to share a little more about what it is and how to begin to heal it. There’s generosity and then there’s over-giving. With generosity you’ll feel excited, loving or passionate. With over-giving, you might feel good about helping out a friend but you’ll also feel drained, frazzled or overwhelmed....Continue reading

I wrote this two years ago before we were in lock down, but it’s still true. Presence can happen on the phone, or can happen through a letter or physically distanced outdoors. Go find your humans . #healing #healingjourney

When I was driving home from Thanksgiving last weekend, we got stuck in some traffic. We looked on @GoogleMaps and it showed us that it was 10 minutes of traffic in RED and then we’d be back to the blue highway, with no more traffic for the rest of the trip. And it made me think, I wish I could use Google Maps for life! Maybe you’re trying to make money in your business and you feel like you’re in a TRAFFIC JAM, very slowly making money. But maybe the traffic jam is only goi...ng to last 10 minutes and then you’ll be back to the blue making money quickly. Or maybe you’re trying to reduce your anxiety and you feel like it’s going SLOW and you’re BARELY making progress, but in just 10 minutes or 10 days, you’ll have a huge breakthrough. Sometimes you feel like you’re stopped and you’re going to be stopped forever. But that’s not true. As long as you don’t give up, get off the highway and park the car, you’ll get through the traffic jams of life and soon you’ll be on the blue highway again, going fast!

If you’re someone who struggles with anxiety, sometimes what might be happening is that you're frustrated but you’re holding it in. Frustration or anger is the body’s natural reaction to when a boundary is crossed. But if you HOLD IT IN and don’t set a boundary because you’re scared of upsetting the other person this can cause anxiety.... So if you’re feeling anxious, check inside if there’s some sort of frustration or some sort of boundary you need to set. And to my fellow Canadians navigating Thanksgiving weekend during a pandemic, you might know this all too well! If you find some internal frustration - take a baby step towards setting a boundary. The step could be as small as talking to a friend about it and getting support. Or you could take a slightly bigger baby step and send a text to the person who you feel upset with. Take one small step. Now, if this resonates with you, and you want relief from this anxiety so you can have more energy and fun in your life, the fastest way is to heal this is work with an expert. And that’s exactly why I want to invite you to explore this a bit deeper on a free 60-minute call with me. We’ll explore your anxiety, what might be causing it, and what can really support you to heal this old pattern so you’re not carrying around that anxiety so often. My clients find that they’re able to get to the root cause of their anxiety so they’re able to significantly reduce it. If you’re ready to have more time where you're relaxed and free from anxiety, send me a private message and we’ll set up a free call :).

I’m not an entrepreneur by choice. I never had a lemonade stand. Selling isn’t in my DNA. It doesn’t run in my family. When I started my business I knew NOTHING about entrepreneurship. I didn’t even take business in HIGH SCHOOL. But Core Energetics changed my life and I wanted to share it with others. And I haven’t ever seen a job listing for Core Energetics.... So I decided to go into private practice because I know this work is so deeply transformative. And when I started I HATED SALES. I didn’t know what it was. I didn’t want to be icky or sleazy or slimy but I also knew I had to learn how to make money if I was going do this full time. If you relate to this, you HAVE TO listen to last week’s Burnout to Brilliance podcast episode #38 on how I went from hating sales to loving it and selling from a heart-centred authentic place. Listen here: iTunes - https://podcasts.apple.com//38-why-i-hated-s/id1440791565 Everywhere Else - https://anchor.fm//38---Why-I-Hated-Selling-And-Why-You-Ha #boundaries #healthyboundaries #sales #artistsofinstagram #healersofinstagram

I used to believe you either had high self esteem or low self esteem. I think we filled out a quiz in high school to see whether our self esteem was high or low. And OF COURSE, I wanted to have high self esteem. So whenever I had negative self talk or critical thoughts, I thought OH NO! I have LOW SELF ESTEEM! This is bad!! I must stop the negative thinking!!...Continue reading