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What This Time has Meant July 8, 2020 Blog written by Judith McGill ...Continue reading

Friends, I am doing some personal research and learning about the meaning of eulogies, what makes them powerful and memorable. You can help me by emailing me eulogies that you have given yourself or heard. I will remove any identifying names or places. You could also do this before sending them to me. If I ever were to want to use them in courses or teaching I would contact you for your permission.Deep gratitude for you considering helping me with this. ... You can send through the Dragonfly Collective for Death Midwifery Website- dragonflycollective.ca , or email me directly at [email protected]. Please put EULOGY IN THE SUBJECT LINE JUDITH

MY HEART'S THOUGHTS ON THESE PAINFULLY DIFFICULT TIMES Where do we Stand? Judith McGill... Carefully observing the trespasses of real people who live in perilous circumstances not of their own making. Taken up with the insidious ways these trespasses are committed one by one until the acts themselves dissolve, disappear into the masses of those trespassed against and those we have come to call marginalized groups. As if by calling people marginalized, a form of attrition has been made, acknowledgement has saved us, concern has been expressed enough to relieve the pressure of privilege and influence. Striving a day at a time to lay bear the unthinking thinking, the unconscious thinking and feeling of privilege. What a great irony- that white people get to call it "Unconscious biases that which is out of our control, that we can tidy up or make amends for, so that the messy realities of affluence can be side stepped in someway. The promise we carry that if we become more conscious of our own fear and hatred, more aware of those people we have contempt for or feel threatened by we will overcome it. We mistakenly construe greater awareness or consciousness as if it is an antidote for our privilege and propensity to look away and carry on. And yet consciousness must always serve love. How do we truly confront those biases, prejudices, bigotry and hatred that consciously get played out against real people, in just as real families, to preserve priledge even when it is detected and squarely faced? How unfortunate that these same biases are what begin to fester and get people killed and worse yet that propagate systemic barriers to inclusion, belonging and hospitality. Perhaps deep dialogue and wise and authentic allyship are the only meaningful deeds for these days? The only way to build a culture of understanding where we meet in the territory of our humanity and begin as if every action mattered greatly, where we truly shelter mercifully in the arms of one another.

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