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Excellent video on what PTSD is and how it may affect people with all kinds of trauma #ptsd #pstdtreatment #ptsdveterans #helpforptsd #ptsdandtrauma #rapeptsd #firstrespondersptsd Please go to:... https://www.media.eo.va.gov/ptsd/mp4/Whiteboard_CPT.mp4

The psychology of pandemics #pandemic #mentalhealth #aftereffectsofpandemics #psychologypandemic https://www.apa.org/monitor/2020/06/conversation-taylor

#fragileselfesteem #psychologicalresilience #traumahealing #personalityandstress #healthynarcissism #mentalhealthandresilience Self-esteem, anxiety, depression, acceptance of criticism and resilience: What is the relationship? In almost three decades of clinical practice, I have learned a lot from the research and clinical experience. Has the pendulum swung too far? In our quest to help people recover from trauma, build confidence and respond to setbacks or even meet the ...inevitable ebb and flow of life's challenges, have we thrown out the baby with the bath water? Has teaching the importance of acceptance, taking personal responsibility, looking at how we can problem-solve and adapt in the face of setbacks, morphed into externalizing blame to others, expecting the world to adapt and change to suit our needs? Is this helping? Or does it merely reinforce our belief that we are victims of life or other people? Does it fuel depression and anxiety or help attenuate it? Does it lead to resolution or does it fuel anger, dissatisfaction and maladjustment and conflict with others when we don't get what we expect or want? If we think of self-esteem or narcissism, one often thinks of the grandiose narcissist who constantly inflates his fragile sense of inadequacy by overcompensating with grandiosity and arrogance. That is their self-centred world. But what about the depressive narcissist? The people who lament their misfortunes and expect others and the world to comfort them, raise their self-esteem, change for them, and solve their problems for them? Isn't this a form of self-centredness too? Bad things happen to good and bad people. Good things happen to good and bad people. We cannot predict or control some things that happen to us but we can decide what our attitude and actions will be in response to any given circumstance. This is not to minimize or deny the problems of life and even the big traumas that brave and wonderful people experience. The pain is real. But the message perhaps is that, regardless of our circumstance or trauma, we can find adaptive, truly healing ways to move forward or allow ourselves to get stuck in anger and the unfairness of it all. Here is an analogy: If an athlete competes in hurdles in the Olympics, does the athlete succeed by having someone else remove the hurdle ahead or does he train and work hard to clear the hurdle himself? If we want to succeed on an exam, do we need to study and prepare ourselves, or is someone else going to do it for us. Agree or disagree, but just some food for thought...

Narcissism. Great article on what it is and what it is not #narcissist #ego #depressivennarcissist #personalitydisorder #healthynarcissism

Divorce (cont'd) #divorceandmentalhealth #separationadjustment #divorcewell #parentinganddivorce 8. Create new family traditions with your children in your own home to create new memories 9. Have family meals together as much as possible. This is the main way to stay connected to your children... 10. Do not let dating relationships take precedence over your children 11. It is not recommended to introduce new partners into your children's lives at least one year post-separation. You may be ready to move on but your children are probably not. You want to get the partner on the right footing from the start, if you can. 12. Let your children come to accept your new partner gradually. Do not shove them down their throat. Just because you may be in love, does not mean they are not still grieving the loss of "mom and dad". Children are forever. Partners, maybe not. See more

#divorce #separationadjustment #divorcewell #divorceandmentalhealth Separation is not easy. Do you feel angry, sad, hyper-anxious, constantly running all the "what ifs", worst case scenarios in your head? Sleepless nights? Are you caught in constant power struggles with your ex-spouse? Who is going to win/lose this round? Do you feel it is impossible to disengage and move forward sometimes? Do you believe that you will never trust any man/woman again? How can you hel...p your kids if you are struggling to deal with your separation and a difficult ex-spouse? Especially if your separation is high conflict... Divorce isn't isn't easy, particularly if there is ongoing conflict. Although every situation is different and your and his/her personality influences the dynamic with your spouse, there are some important things to keep in mind if you want to move on in a healthy way and if you want your kids to grow and adjust in a healthy manner: 1. Take care of yourself. Exercise, address your sleep problems with your doctor and/or psychologist. Eat healthy foods. Lean on your friends and family regularly. Find or continue with recreational activities which help you relax, de-stress and have fun. 2. Remember that your kids are 50% you and 50% your spouse. Do not speak ill of your ex-spouse even if you are angry and feel that way yourself. Your kids love you both and should not feel they must divide their loyalties. As they grow and mature, they will observe things for themselves and make their own decisions. Otherwise it can lead to depression, anxiety, acting out and other difficulties in your kids. 3. Avoid engaging in power struggles. Pick your battles. If your spouse tries to engage you, do not allow it. Using email or text rather than phone calls can be more effective in setting limits and boundaries with over demanding or excessively hostile ex-partners. 4. Focus on what you can control (in your own life, in your home, in how you choose to parent your kids) and work to let go of what you cannot control (in your ex-spouse's home; how he behaves with the children). 5. Do not use your kids as intermediaries (to give cheques, deliver messages, etc.). This messes up the kids! 6. Continue to parent. Do not let the divorce and any feelings of guilt or sadness for your kids make a jelly fish out of you. Kids still need limits and boundaries; perhaps even more so, as the structure of the original family unit has now been dismantled and kids will play on your weaknesses. You are the parent, not your kids' friend. Your kids don't need to agree or like what you do. They do need to respect your authority to be healthy, productive people. 7. Keep your kids active in their lives with sports, other interests, academics and social contacts. Always help them nurture these.

Resources for seniors http://www.advocacycentreelderly.org/elder_abuse_-_publicat

Combatting loneliness with random acts of kindness #kindness #preventingloneliness #feelingconnectedtoothers

How does faith impact mental health, particularly in times such as COVID-19? #faithandmentalhealth #depressionandreligion #mentalhealthandmeaningmaking #faithandanxiety

Unique Psychological Needs of Seniors #psychologyofaging #seniorhealth #geriatricpsychology #psychologicalneedsofseniors #agingwell #psychologyandseniors #seniorsmentalhealth

Grieving the loss of a child. #grieving #lossofachild #gettingpastgrief #complicated grief #griefandmentalhealth #lifeaftergrief

Betrayal and breach of trust even when there has not been a sexual affair: More common and equally disturbing to the betrayed partner. #infidelity #relationshiptips

How to restore trust after sexual affairs

Impact of chronic exposure to fear of illness or death on front line workers. Paramedics, police and fire personnel are also vulnerable in their roles. We are here to support you all.

Student Wellness and COVID-19

Working from home with COVID-19, with or without children

Psychology Works Fact Sheet: Helping Teens Cope with the Impacts of and Restrictions Related to COVID-19

Attachment Style May Affect Willingness to Share Food

https://dailyhive.com//canadian-psychologists-free-front-l

https://www.huffingtonpost.ca//coronavirus-productivity_l_

https://psiloveyou.xyz/its-ok-to-not-be-superhuman-during-s

https://www.ctvnews.ca/video?clipId=1922408

https://atlantic.ctvnews.ca/how-should-i-talk-to-my-kids-ab

https://calgaryherald.com//those-forced-to-self-isolate-s/

How do we get through this COVID-19 crisis over the next few months and stay psychologically healthy? Here is what people are experiencing and saying now. Are you one of them? 1. Now that we are all working from home, are you staying in your pyjamas and forgetting to even brush your teeth until 2 p.m."...Continue reading

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LwTV-_e97ys

https://www.nytimes.com//coronavirus-covid-teenagers-teens

https://cpa.ca//Fact/PsychologyWorksFactSheet-COVID-19.pdf GOOD, SOUND ADVICE FOLKS

https://medium.com//regulating-emotions-in-a-covid-19-worl

COVID-19: We are still open for business and continue to be there for our patients and are accepting new referrals. However, during these challenging times, and consistent with global medical direction, we are not currently holding in person services at our office. We are holding telephone sessions and anticipate that we will be able to offer secure video sessions for our patients. Please stay tuned. ... Our phone messages are being checked and returned during regular business hours. Do not hesitate to call us at: (905) 830-3474. Our website also offers email contact access for appointment scheduling and initial contact at: www.sandspsychology.ca. Email us at: [email protected]. Stay safe and remain calm. We will all get through this. Please self-isolate and distance from others for the foreseeable future until such time that the medical clearance is provided for us to resume our normal life. Once we all have that clearance, we will be in the office and will resume full in-person services.

Words to live by. Stay home everyone. Social distance is imperative to starve this virus. It cannot live if it no longer can find new hosts

https://www.theglobeandmail.com//article-true-psychologic/

https://www.psychologytoday.com//25-ways-youre-borrowing-s

https://www.psychologytoday.com///9-rules-living-good-life

https://www.salon.com//a-new-psych-paper-perfectly-explai/

https://www.psychologytoday.com//2019/the-power-boundaries

https://www.psychologytoday.com//why-sometimes-saying-no-y

https://www.psychologytoday.com//10-reasons-teens-have-so-

Making decisions in later life: Education series, Spring, 2019

February is Psychology month! https://cpa.ca/psychologyfactsheets/

CAMH informational resource for technology overuse: https://www.camh.ca//youthfamilyinteractive-onlinebrochure

Another wonderful book on how to have a healthy relationship with your smartphone. Easy read and well researched. Convincing and clear. A must read for all parents, teens, educators and health professionals. Does this apply to you? https://www.goodreads.com//35209767-how-to-break-up-with-y

A must read for all parents, including her book, "I-Minds". Second edition coming to stores in April, 2019. http://www.drmariswingle.com//Psychophysiology-Today-Text.

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