Evölve Counselling Services
5 Edinburgh Road South N1G 4Y3 Guelph, ON, Canada

If you are a parent, please read! Our youth are struggling. We have had a huge surge in child clients ranging in ages 6-15 the last 2 weeks who have anxiety above normal levels and in most cases have become OCD behaviours, panic attacks, sleep issues, disordered eating and full eating disorders. Please check in with your children daily, talk to them about how they’re doing and address concerns you see. Here are a few tips to help: 1. Yes, covid is impacting everyone again rig...Continue reading

When you’re wondering where to start in your healing process, reflect on the areas you feel something negative about and identify what the root issue might be within those feelings. Those are the painful past learning experiences that are coming forward in your present that need some healing. If you need help or guidance in understanding what areas of growth you may have, contact Evolve to speak with one of our therapists today! #alwaysevolve #counselling #therapy #selfhealing #learnedbehaviours www.evolvetherapy.ca

We are very excited to welcome our newest Associate, Megan Snow!! Megan is a warm and caring therapist and is here to support each client with their mental health needs. If you or someone you know needs to talk, we are are here to listen. Please contact us at www.evolvetherapy.ca to speak with one of our therapists today! ... Email: [email protected] Tel: 519-830-9901 www.evolvetherapy.ca

Genuine Apology vs Manipulation We have all heard the saying actions speak louder than words so it might leave you wondering why you’re receiving the same apology for the same behaviours. This can become exhausting and like a slow leak it eventually erodes the relationship as with each apology without a behaviour change slowly breaks down trust. Eventually we see that person as someone we can no longer rely on. While the words of Alexander Pope to err is human, to forgive... divine imply forgiveness as being the high moral ground, this doesn’t require you to ignore the dynamics of the apology. If someone continues to apologize for the same behaviour numerous times, the apology then becomes a form of manipulation. The apology can then become: 1. A declaration made out of selfishness 2. A means to end a dispute 3. A method of appeasement to control 4. Used to elicit an apology from the other person so that they can deflect responsibility and shift blame 5. A test to push your boundaries to see what they can get away with Ultimately, if you’re hearing the same apology for the same behaviours multiple times, it might be time to look at the root issue and identify whether the boundaries need to be strengthened and allow more distance from the other person. www.evolvetherapy.ca #mentalhealth #alwaysevolve #counselling #therapy #IGtherapy #changeyourbehaviour #evolvecounsellingservices

When someone stops listening to what you’re saying and instead becomes a right fighter or only listens to form their next rebuttal, they start caring more about the argument than they do about the person in the argument. To maintain self-care it’s better to walk away from these arguments as they will only drain and exhaust you. Instead shift focus back to yourself and understand your role in why the other person may have become defensive towards you. Ineffective communicati...on skills usually equals defence and attack strategies to walk away feeling that you won but winning always means your partner loses and you stop being on the same team and instead become opposite teams. Healthy communication means listening to both sides and working together to find a compromise that allows both people to walk away happy and respected. www.evolvetherapy.ca #alwaysevolve #mentalhealth #therapy #counselling #communicationskills #IGtherapy See more

Attempting to force happiness on someone who is struggling within a negative space mentally only forces them to stifle their emotions and feelings. This oppression can feel like control. Allowing them to heal at their own pace creates a more supportive system and to release trauma that would otherwise be stored within us. www.evolvetherapy.ca #counselling #therapy #mentalhealth #IGtherapy #alwaysevolve