Gabriel Keczan Counselling and Art Therapy
201-507 Baker St. V1L 4J2 Nelson, BC, Canada

Couple's beware of the four horsemen. Get good help. If you're local, note that I see & work with couples.

Have you recognized the signs of gridlock in your relationship? Ongoing disagreements with your partner can be overwhelming. It's frustrating to replay the sam...e argument with no sign of moving forward. Thankfully, getting unstuck from relationship gridlock is possible. The process can even bring you closer. As Dr. John Gottman explains in "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work," all you need is the motivation and willingness to explore the hidden issues that are really causing the gridlock. Start the conversation and unlock your relationship potential with our Gottman Relationship Coach programs: https://bit.ly/3njDcvD

THE PROMISE: BALLS, BACKBONE & HEART This is the first of 4 posts this week about the upcoming Sex, Polarity & Relationship Masterclass for Men on Thursday. ...Continue reading

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Unlocking Potential in Men ... with purpose, power & possibility

Friday (A)live On Purpose LIVE On my pivot from Therapy into Coaching And the Four Keys in my eBook for men... Alive On Purpose: 1 - Align 2 - Create 3 - Unclench 4 - Claim Because the world needs you to step up more courageously into your deeper Purpose https://www.gabrielkeczan.com/alive-on-purpose

I also see couples and integrate much Gottman-inspired wisdom into my practice.

The vulnerable side of anger includes the exposure of pain, fear, shame and loss, anxiety, and insecurity. Anger rises up for good reason. Whether we acknowledg...e that good reason or not, and how we acknowledge it defines what that anger turns into, something constructive or destructive. #anger #pain #fear #shame See more

FOR THE MEN: 3 SHIFTS to help Men Claim PERSONAL FREEDOM (3 problems and ways to shift through them) Shift #1. Default Purpose to DEEPER PURPOSE... Many are in a position of a GOLDEN crisis opportunity right now with huge changes going on in our world. The money question comes up. Unless a man faces his deeper questions of PURPOSE ALIGNMENT and commitment, the money question will keep coming up. Some of you have been living out your default purpose & you know it. Ask me how I know. (I used to be bound by the golden hand-cuffs of a regular paycheque doing soul-crushing work that suffocated my creativity before I got on my PATH. The way out is not easy. But it's necessary) 2021 is time to dig deep & grab hold of your DEEPER Purpose, so you can turn it into your regenerative Mission. A man on a mission is unstoppable. People talk about the ROI The Return on Investment. It’s instinctual for us, as men, to ask: is it WORTH IT? It is WORTH my attention? Will it contribute to creating the PERSONAL FREEDOM I am wanting for myself, my loved ones & my life? If you’re stuck, the question I ask: What’s the COI (the COST OF IN-ACTION)? What’s the cost of staying stuck & how will life look in 3, 6, or 12 months if you stay stuck? What might it cost you not to take BOLD & MASSIVE ACTION to call in the help you need to sharpen your PURPOSE right now? PURPOSE IS not something outside of you. YOU ARE YOUR PURPOSE. Your PURPOSE brings you FULLY ALIVE because the stakes are often LIFE or DEATH. Is it do or die time for you? YOUR PURPOSE IS TO GIVE YOUR GIFTS, WITH MORE BOLD & DECISIVE ACTION than ever. In this process you are always HUNTING your PURPOSE so that you can get better and better at handling & delivering your tools & your gifts. YOUR PURPOSE GIVES YOU MOMENTUM & THE MASCULINE GIFT OF SELF-DIRECTION Maybe your PURPOSE is to WARRIOR UP and make it your MISSION to find places in the world for your gifts to land, to sustain you & provide generativity. MAKE ROOM FOR YOUR GIFTS & YOUR GIFTS MAKE ROOM FOR YOU. To sharpen your purpose is to sharpen the tip of your spear for 2021. Shift #2. Half-Heartedness (half-assed living) to Full-Hearted COURAGE The second problem is half-hearted living. Where in your life are there dead-zones? Where in your realm have you let your commitments slide? How can you bring more COURAGE and ALIVENESS to these areas of your life: mental, physical, health, relationships that matter, financial? The way I work with Courage is to HUNT FEAR - and locate where in the body and nervous system fear may be hiding. Unclenching from fear is a process of CLEARING away the obstacles in yourself so you can THRIVE. Some forms of exhaustion cannot be cured by rest alone, some forms of exhaustion can only be cured by WHOLEHEARTEDNESS. So you are at once HUNTING PURPOSE - as well as all the barriers to your Purpose - so you’re also HUNTING FEAR. We hunt fear so we can UNCLENCH FROM FEAR. Feel the fear & do the thing anyway. Unclenching from fear is subtle, personal work for releasing old obstacles & trauma’s such as false beliefs of being fundamentally flawed or undeserving or unworthy. It takes work and LAYERS of SUPPORT to move through these inner battles. This is your heroic underworld journey. The messy back-end that requires council, accountability & emotional & motivational support. This is where I see people through their biggest break-throughs in life, love & business. This is my zone of genius helping you UNCLENCH from FEAR. And transforming stuck-energy into coherent, forward movement. Whether it’s that courageous conversation at work, in your love relationships, or that thing that you’ve been wanting to do or try that you’ve been putting off. Now is the time to step into your leadership with COURAGE and bring PLAYFULNESS & JOY to your CREATIVITY. Shift #3. Victim Mentality to FULL POWER One of the biggest struggles is clearing the mental barriers & habit patterns with the right embodied mindset shifts to release shame, release self-doubt, release victim-hood & step more fully into your POWER TO CREATE your dream. Many men blunt their consciousness by escaping into addictions to video games, social-media distraction, porn, drinking, workaholism-to-avoid feeling - or other escapes. What’s your distraction? Your POWER TO CREATE YOUR LIFE. My own mentors & coaches remind me that ASKING FOR HELP IS A POWER-MOVE. TO STEP INTO FULL POWER is to reckon with aligning your will with the greater Will of why you were born & why you are here. The paradox of this type of power is it’s not what always what you think it is. It’s about SLOWING DOWN TO SPEED UP. The navy seals have a staying SLOW IS SMOOTH and SMOOTH IS FAST. So SLOW DOWN & get ALIGNED so you can the ACCELERATE your GROWTH in the best way. Trauma is a disruption of your creative rhythm. Trauma lives in the body. Part of OWNING your power is accepting your own unique rhythm & trusting it. Your commitment to your Purpose is also a commitment to your Embodiment & your power to FACE REALITY on your own terms & with your own rhythm. You can be both BROKEN & UNBREAKABLE on your MISSION. Reality itself is the test. Purpose is a feeling. You know it in your gut and bones when you’re aligned. This is how your Purpose transforms trauma & finally sets you free. These 3 SHIFTS are GIFTS, and more, are baked into my customized coaching packages for men: DEEPER PURPOSE. COURAGE (UNCLENCHING FROM FEAR so you can claim:) FULL POWER of your CREATIVITY. 7-Minute Video Message from me in the comments, including beautiful wintery view of Kootenay Lake. I’m curious: what’s in the way for you? Shoot me a DM with the word CHAT If you’re interested. It's time to create the regenerative future of your dreams in the ALIVE ON PURPOSE coaching package starting January 2021. Please feel free to share with any man you know who may benefit. We’ll chat. Take Heart & Take Risk.

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