Good Thinking Counselling

Sometimes, when our needs are not met in childhood, it shows up in surprising ways later in life.

Triggers are our teachers. When were triggered, we automatically enter protective states. This causes us to behave as though we’re in danger (in the mind + body... we actually are.) We experience our past in the present moment. If we commit to our evolution, we can begin to view triggers as ways to learn more about ourselves. Which allows us to respond in new ways that are in alignment with who we actually are. Here’s a great way to begin. You can journal, or speak these out loud. I’ll give some examples. 1. What expectation did I have that wasn’t met?: I expected my partner to just know what was bothering and help me feel better. When my expectations aren’t met, it makes me feel: like I am invisible, or don’t matter. 2. What did I hope to get from the behavior I engaged in?: I expected to get some attention or appreciation (this one takes radical honesty) Instead I felt: rejected. 3. When I feel threatened I usually: Act like I don’t care When I am threatened, my protection mechanism is: indifference. 4. What role do I play in this conflict? I push + tend to over state why I am right. I could have more personal responsibility when it comes to: pausing + knowing my emotional limitsthen voicing them. 5. Why did I feel so afraid (triggers are always fear based?: I felt like I was going to be ignored or left. My true core fear is: I’m not good enough. #selfhealers

Sometimes small changes take time to show up in your life. Meditation is one of those kinds of change.

Best. Advice. Ever.