Janelle Fraser

$exual abuse is a big deal. I wish I had known that this is a big deal. I wish someone had told me.... I wish it was educated in school. I wish my parents had talked about this. $exual abuse is a big deal and although my parents didn't know and people in my life didn't know this was happening to me I wish I got the message and knew that it was a big deal. I wish I knew that what I experienced was $exual abuse. -------- I remember when I decided to go and see a counselor for the first time. I have never told anybody that I have been $exually abused and I'm just sitting there waiting. I'm not even labelling it that at the time, but I am shaking. I'm looking over my back because I am in university and I am thinking 'who's going to see me walk into this counselors office?'. I don't want anyone to see me. I don't want anyone to know that I am getting help or that I am struggling. I didn't tell anybody that I am going to see this woman and so I'm sitting in the office and I am so nervous and I just want to leave because I don't even know why I'm there. I get into the office and I sit down and all she says is "why are you here?" I am bawling instantly. I'm hyperventilating. I don't even know consciously why I'm here but it was like my body knew why I was there. - - - - - - - - I was 18 years old having this conversation with my counselor and still not aware, it was only well into my 20s, far onto my $exual healing journey where I could actually acknowledge that this was a big deal. It was only after this counseling session that I was able to start having conversations with my parents and with my partner about what was going on. To get this ball rolling. This was a huge start in my journey and so if you're in the beginning of your journey, I want you to know that your abuse is a big deal. Your abuse needs to be talked about and called what it is, abuse. In my latest video I talk about 10 things I wish I knew at the start of my healing journey from the position of someone 12 years into it. Watch the video here: https://youtu.be/wgUSshJqm7k

Navigating these types of conversations can be uncomfortable & some SIMPLE tricks can completely change the outcome & leave you closer. If you desire more communication skills in your relationship, my Date Nights For Couples would be so fun & rewarding! You are not just watching.... You are discussing, practicing, & doing exercises. You choose if you want to date monthly or weekly. - - - - You will Feel In Love & Happy Together, Confidently Communicate, Increase Intimacy, Desire, & Fun! I know you have busy schedules & very little extra time or energy... you won't have to plan a thing! Just hit play & be taken on an Intimate Communication adventure. Send me a message for details! xo

Walk with me throguh my journey of sexual healing. This is my abuse story and how it affected my life and relationships in ways you might not realise. In this video I will share with you the impact my abuse has had on my 12 year relaionship, how I recovered and am still recovering and the steps I have taken to heal.... Going live on YouTube in 3 min

If you want help creating your own routine & busting any blocks to being in the mood more often PLEASE reach out, my 'In The Mood' Women's experience will be perfect for you! It's a step-by-step training + guide to discover what you need & want to enjoy frequent & fulfilling intimacy with your partner...without any pressure to do anything right away with this new knowledge! It will save you YEARS of trying to figure it out on your own & when you are ready you will have the to...ols to feel confident as a woman & completely in love and connected to your partner! Send me a message & I will get you more details! Xo

I remember the first time I locked eyes with my partner, I thought he was so hot! I can still feel the energy, the excitement, & the unknown. 12 years later, I can honestly say I spent a DECADE wondering if we would ever get that feeling back, DISAPPOINTED because I didn't feel it, & CONFUSED if we were "meant to be"... As our relationship grew and our lives changed I realised 'you're never going to get new relationship energy back.' That's never going to happen again. I needed to let go of what was, to have what is and to create what I wanted in my future. (new video shares 11 secrets to do this!) - - - - - - - - According to Pamela Madsen in my newest youtube video that is linked in my bio, "The problem with 'new relationship energy' is that it is not a renewable resource in a relationship" This addiction to the HIGH of a new relationship, the seeking to go "back to how things were", & deep programing from EVERY MOVIE EVER keeps us from experiencing the REAL magic of long term partnership. The real depth of connection The real vulnerability of intimacy The real playfulness of trust & respect - - - - - - - - Pamela said, "we are in a society where anything other than hot 'new relationship energy' is considered broken or unacceptable I have had to work to accept that in a long term relationship there is a lot of 'warmth', I am going to experience a lot of day-to-day and a lot of calm. I have learnt that warm is healthy and normal and beautiful. I have learnt how I can turn up the heat and what I need to do to change the pace and experience a different energy or heat with my partner, but that's not going to be everyday." - - - - - - - - Wow, I CAN SO RELATE! Watch this interview to learn the 11 secrets to satisfaction in long term relationships and get all the goods from my special guest Pamela Madsen who has been featured on Oprah, CNN, & Playboy! Watch here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H2p9H8sbeB0

For some reason we think when it comes to $ex that we are how we are. Cheers to growth & expansion in every other area of life, but not here. We are never taught how to communicate about it, understand our bodies & needs, and definitely not taught how to expand our sexuality into new places.... (Get married, do it to have babies, & keep that locked up tight!) What you call incompatibility I call your opportunity for growth, greater self expression, and happiness...I would love to help you! Send me a message to get started today.