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Absolutely we can take responsibility for our minds, our hearts and our nervous systems. Reframe. Recalibrate. Reset. Recondition. Reinvent. Reprioritize. Reconcile ourselves. So much opportunity to move us in the direction of living our life to our fullest potential as a human being regardless of our earlier world that helped create our minds I’m grateful to witness this on a regular basis with so many of my clients. I admire all the hard vulnerable work they do

We are emotional mammals. Repressing our natural way of being has significant consequences. I’ve worked with many people over the years to help them build up their capacity to tolerate their difficult emotions so they can understand them better and move through them in a healthier way. Buiding capacity to tolerate vulnerability is at the core of this work.

Staying very busy is great way to avoid uncomfortable feelings, thoughts and decisions. This is usually because it means some kind of change or action is needed in your life that you are fearful to do. This avoidance also contributes to symptoms of depression, anxiety and/or living in survival mode. What’s trying to catch up with you that you’re not wanting to look at? It’s important to note that making room for your inner conflict (although quite painful at times) is the hallmark of refining who you’re becoming. This is where growth lies and where living your life to your fullest potential as a human being awaits. Please &/or share

Let’s keep an eye on this and how much space and time it monopolizes within us

Very true, but not always easy. There’s so many ways we try and change who we are so we can feel that deep sense of belonging

Keep focused. Keep aiming. Keep moving. Those small steps towards your goals are going to propel you forward

Have you ever felt your defenses thaw? Who was it with? What did they do that created this experience for you? You can feel it when your protective walls come down a bit. When that guard of yours comes down even if it’s ever so slightly. It’s a highly vulnerable experience, one that is foreign for so many. It was never meant to be foreign. Vulnerability is our natural state of being. It’s foreign because somewhere along your life path, you’ve been met with too much vulnerability, so your brain stepped up to help you by switching the brains defense mechanisms on so you wouldn’t hurt so much in the future Please &/or share

Great article Cindy! https://vancouverisland.ctvnews.ca//divorce-rates-up-30-du

The ingredients for a great sex life might surprise you.

And if this happens, take some time to reflect, learn and grow from it and then level up even stronger than before

What will you bring to this year? What parts of yourself are going to show up that are different than before? Let’s walk together working on those aspects of ourselves and our life that we are trying to bring to this year! Here’s to a successful 2021!

This can be tricky. It’s rewarding work helping my clients discern the difference between the two

I remember years ago when John was talking about this stat and the research to support it. I was flabbergasted to hear it. I’d like to think now more and more couples are reaching out sooner than this. One sad truth about this stat is for some couples, by the time they get to counselling it’s too late. Counselling ends up being the end of their relationship. They have moved far down the loneliness and living parallel lives cascade (to name a few reasons). On a positive note,... one of the significant shifts I have noticed in my practice over the past 2 years or so, is couples are reaching out to do counselling to be proactive. They want to be the best they can be and set up their relationship for success. This is impressive. And a number of these couples are in there 20s. Many couples have heard about the method I use (which includes filling out a number of questionnaires that are followed by an educational feedback session) which gives them tools and strategies that they can incorporate into their relationship immediately. They end up feeling empowered and appreciate having a road map to follow that supports and grows their connection. They really enjoy the education part of the process. It’s a lot of fun working with these couples.

Let’s all make a fierce come back one step at a time

Try this throughout your day

Imagine what one single baby step a day for the next 365 days can accomplish for you! Small movements builds momentum, especially if your motivation is low and you’ve been struggling with your mood. What will your baby step be today? Make it so small that you know without a doubt you can do it. Let’s make 2021 count more than ever before.

https://youtu.be/rMD2BYgcxdg Wow! Whatever you do today, find 10 minutes to meet your future self. One of the most powerful guided exercises I've ever experienced.

I’ve heard Gordon say this so many times