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Teachable Fridays We believe that we either process events through emotions or rationalize the crap out of it to come to a logical decision. We hear statements like, "I think with my heart" or "I think with my head". This dichotomy teaches us that event processing can only be done in one or another way.... Three states of mind includes a third way of reflecting which includes of the other side. Therefore, if you're an emotional reasoner, try and open up to the possibility that there could be a rational response as well. And vice versa.. Open up to the possibility that your heart has a voice as well. In the end, both want to be heard. That is exactly what wise mind is about. Wise mind integrates both heart and mind and helps to find a third option or compromise. Typically, heart and mind do not agree when a dilemma arises in which there are two options; yes or no, do or don't, say or don't say, go or stay, etc. Tips for wise mind 1. Identify the dilemma 2. Emotional mind = Ask yourself what is my heart saying? 3. Reasonable mind = Ask yourself what is my brain saying? 4. Wise mind = is there a middle ground or other possibilities? Photo credit: @kaboompics #wisemind #emotionalmind #reasonablemind #dbt #dialecticalbehaviourtherapy #eventprocessing #threestatesofmind #counselling #counsellingandpsychotherapy #psychotherapy #psychotherapist #registeredpsychotherapist #torontopsychotherapist #durhampsychotherapist #mentalhealth #pickeringtherapist #canadiancertifiedcounsellor #ecounselling #telephonecounselling #acceptingnewpatients #abouttherapy #etherapy #therapy #therapeuticapproach #dialecticalbehaviortherapy #dbt #accept #letgo #perceptions #perspective #changehowyouthink

It's the Case of the Wednesday Hump Be impeccable with your words is one of the four agreements. This means to be honest in your communication not just with others, but yourself too.... Therefore, staying true to your word. If you say you're going to do something, follow through with it. If you can't because of unforeseen circumstances, share those situations honestly. If you can't complete a task at all, then assertively say no. This way you won't feel resentful for saying yes to a request when you were already overloaded. The opposite is also true, don't put another person in a position that they may have to compromise their integral lives in order to satisfy your needs. Ultimately, it is a choice and one that you have the power to make. #carolinemyss #carolinemyssquote #liveintegrally #wednesdayhump #wednesdayvibes #wednesday #wednesdaymotivation #communication #honesty #relationships #relationshipgoals #counselling #counsellingandpsychotherapy #psychotherapy #psychotherapist #registeredpsychotherapist #torontopsychotherapist #durhampsychotherapist #mentalhealth #takecareofyourself #clinicalcounselling #canadiancertifiedcounsellor #pickeringtherapist #etherapy #ecounselling #telephonecounselling #acceptingnewpatients #abouttherapy #mentalhealthwellbeing #mentalhealthcounselling

Teachable Fridays Let's talk about your feelings... Our feelings sometimes think that they own us lol. Like... Our feelings dictate how we react. But guess what.... They don't! Shocking eh?... Breaking the pattern of what your emotions want you to do involves slowing down the process. Becoming aware of them, deciphering where they're expressing themselves and what they're wanting you to do... And then choosing what you - yes, YOU want to do with them. Start with these steps: 1) identify the specific feeling 2) locate where you're feeling it in the body 3) what is that feeling wanting you to do? 4) is that response helpful? Then follow through. If it's not, find another option Picture credit: @burakkostak #teachableFridays #tgif #feelings #emotions #understandingfeelings #letstalkaboutyourfeelings #etherapy #ecounselling #telephonecounselling #acceptingnewpatients #abouttherapy #mentalhealthwellbeing #takecareofyourself #wecandoittogether #clinicalcounselling #psychotherapy #counselling #counsellingandpsychotherapy #registeredpsychotherapist #pickeringtherapist #mentalhealthcounselling #canadiancertifiedcounsellor #gtapsychotherapist #durhampsychotherapist #mentalhealth #therapy

Affirm Thy Self Thursdays What does worrying get you? One might say:... Helps to prepare Means you care Motivates you Creates action However, as much as these seem to be positive and healthy reasons to worry, here are the pitfalls to worrying: Leads to panic Causes errors Impacts relationships Health issues Sleep issues Shutdown and isolation Fear leading to inaction While worrying might feel like a helpful skill (and in some situations it can absolutely be effective), in most cases- it's not. Today, if you can- try and express to yourself that you are releasing the need to worry. And see what happens. #releaseworry #worryfree #affirmyourself #affirmations #positiveselfaffirmations #positivetalkonly #positivemindset #selfawareness #selfaffirmation #iam #worryless #worrylesslivemore #dontworry #psychotherapy #psychotherapist #registeredpsychotherapist #torontopsychotherapist #durhampsychotherapist #mentalhealth #abouttherapy #mentalhealthwellbeing #wellbeing #durhampsychotherapist #gtapsychotherapist #pickeringtherapist #counselling #counsellingandpsychotherapy #clinicalcounselling #canadiancertifiedcounsellor #acceptingnewpatients #etherapy