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Parent Resources: I often talk about how we need to parent ourselves to be able to effectively parent our children. Another common strain within the home is the... relationship between the two parents. I hear it all the time in my work with with couples: We are fine without the kid stuff, or we were fine before our kids came along When we fight and argue about parenting roles and responsibilities, it leads to us emotionally parenting instead of effectively parenting. It causes stress and tension which trickles down to our children as well. Our children may end up feeling that their the problem and the cause of the fights between their parents. When we take the time to connect, communicate and explore with our partner about their childhoods and their parenting beliefs, it allows for the opportunity to develop empathy towards one another. We can learn to work co-operatively as a team, share the parenting workload and support one another. It is hard work, but worth it! Here are some great tips:

Video 46: (Part 2 of 2)- Children with complex needs require MORE of us as parents, what can you do to give MORE?

Is parenting stressing you out? Is your teen struggling? Are you guys fighting too much? I can help solve these problems!

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Video # 34: How do we effectively Parent: One way, is to remember the 5 R’s. We can help our children by remembering the 5 R’s:... 1. Recognize- My child is experiencing Big Feelings 2. Respond- I need to effectively respond, not emotionally react to my child 3. Regulate- I need to help my child to co-regulate their emotions or remind them how to self-regulate 4. Relate- I need to understand and use empathy to validate what they are experiencing. 5. Reason- Once my child is no longer consumed by Big Feelings then I can reason with them, and teach them what behavior is acceptable and what is not acceptable, I can help.

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Video 46: (Part 1 of 2)- Children with Complex Needs, can be MORE intense with emotions, sensitive, challenging, easily distracted, and uncomfortable with change.

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Trauma greatly impacts the brain, which then impacts our children’s behaviour. Trauma also greatly impacts our ability to parent effectively, rather than emotio...nally. The great news is that the brain can be re-wired and Trauma can be healed, therefore behaviour will change. The first step as a parent is to change our approach, so then our children have a chance to change theirs.

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Parent Resources: The work as the parent is constantly within ourselves. We must practice patience and consistency and continue to ask ourselves:... How can I adjust and tweak what I am doing, to deliver what my child needs rather than Why is my child not responding to what I am doing? The 5 R’s is helpful, and the 5th R-Reason only happens when your child is in a mindset to have the conversation(to learn from us and so we can learn from them) This can happen hours later or the next day, or when you are reading a book or watching a movie, whenever an opportunity for teaching occurs. Our default as parents is to try to fix it instantly, to stop the emotional overwhelm our child is feeling, our children just like us adults need to get that emotional stuff out of our bodies, it can’t be suppressed, or it builds up. Emotional releases are sign of being healthy, not that there is something wrong with us. We can help our children by remembering the 5 R’s: 1. Recognize- My child is experiencing Big Feelings 2. Respond- I need to effectively respond, not emotionally react to my child 3. Regulate- I need to help my child to co-regulate their emotions or remind them how to self-regulate.(reminders, holding space, supportive comments, keep it short and to the point-they are in their little Brain and not hearing too much, non verbal communication is important) 4. Relate- I need to understand and use empathy to validate what they are experiencing.(not sympathy provoking decisions/reactions but true empathy for our children and their feelings, their feelings and emotions are very real, and have consumed them. 5. Reason- Once my child is no longer consumed by Big Feelings then I can reason with them, and TEACH(not punish) them and show them what behavior is acceptable and what is not acceptable, I can help them learn from these situations. As a parent, I can also learn from these situations.

We must Parent ourselves, to effectively parent our children. I repeat: We must parent ourselves, to effectively parent our children. Since 2006, I have been wo...rking with, mentoring and parenting children. I have worked in Justice, Child and Family Services, and Education. I have been a parent, a co-parent, a foster parent and step-parent. I have read many books and taken many trainings and upgraded my education around brain development, attachment, parent-child relationship and providing a nurturing environment etc. The biggest lesson I have learned is: All I need to do is to continue to work on myself,I need to mange my own emotions, work on stress management and heal my old trauma and myself overall. If I do that, then I can continually show up by providing a safe, non-judgmental, secure and healthy relationship for the child/teen I am interacting with. If I am not emotionally parenting, then I can use the effective parenting strategies, tools and skills I have. There is no magic strategy, no magic pill, no magic wand to instantly make things better or to fix your kid but there is an opportunity for you as the parent; to put the hard work in and parent yourself, to be able to effectively parent your children. Are you tired of fighting, yelling, feeling guilty and living with overwhelming stress and emotional overwhelm? If you step up, and fight through your fear and find your strength, then we can work together for 12 weeks. In 12 weeks, I will provide you with all the parenting tools and skills to effectively parent that you will ever need such as: parenting style, connection, communication, how to discipline, the teenage years, brain development and emotional regulation, the teenage years, complex needs and more. I will help you uncover your emotional triggers, and you will learn how to manage your stress and upgrade your emotional intelligence to be able to stop emotionally parenting. You can choose to continue to struggle and do it alone; or you can choose to take some support, guidance and help, so that you can forever change your family’s destiny.