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Join us for our Wine, Women & Well-Being BOOK club September 16th. We’ve got a great read for you ... #youcansipwithus Grab your tickets on Eventbrite.

How do I start to see my worth ? How can I work on my self- esteem? How do I move forward into healing and growth ? Well....... One way to begin is to identify your values. What things do you stand for that are not superficial at all? What are you most proud of about yourself ? These things define your self- worth ... these things have nothing to do with your possessions... your position at work ... your degree or your big house. These are your core values: your compass ... that guides you through life. This doesn’t mean you don’t make mistakes ... we all do. In fact making mistakes can help you identify your values , because you know innately what doesn’t feel right. You can then redirect your sails Another step into seeing your worth is to begin to identify your self- limiting beliefs ... And then challenging them. When you catch yourself in negative self- talk.. what are you saying to beat yourself up? When did you decide that was truth ? I’m an idiot ... I will never succeed ... I’m not smart enough ... I’ll make a fool of myself ... Identifying our values and challenging self limiting beliefs are two powerful ways to work on self-esteem and bring the focus out of ‘ what others think of me ‘ and into what do I think of myself’.... After all, the relationship you have with yourself will be the longest one of your life... it’s worth investing in. Make it a good one. See more

Did you know that our inner child is the age of our earliest unresolved or unhealed trauma? That’s how old we are emotionally. That’s how we show up everyday in our friendships , intimate relationships & careers. This determines how we treat ourselves and others. As humans, we project our emotional maturity / immaturity everywhere. It’s up to us to do the deep work and acknowledge our trauma to kickstart the healing process. ... No one can do it for us. It’s difficult and personal work. It can bring up a ton of pain ...something many try to avoid at all costs. Sometimes the cost is our own happiness / fulfillment well into adulthood. But avoidance leads nowhere. In Fact, we may end up passing dysfunction down generationally. But when we are courageous enough to : -acknowledge our inner child with love, compassion and empathy -debunk self- limiting notions our inner child decided were truths... we begin to heal. What did you come to believe was true about yourself that may indeed be false and limiting ? What does that child inside of you need to hear? If you’re looking for a clue into uncovering your trauma.... look into your triggers. What triggers you? How does it make you feel ? When is the earliest time you remember feeling that way .... Trauma doesn’t always have to be some massive event ... it could have been small and subtle but significant nonetheless. I promise you... inner child healing and work is incredibly rewarding. But... it takes vulnerability & courage. Ask this girl in the picture. She knows. See more

Empath, being sensitive isn’t your fault, but learning how to manage it is your responsibility. I’m not here to Fix anyone - Empaths have a tendency to get overly involved with other’s issues because we think we need to help. We don’t. ... I am a super feeler and owe no one an explanation as to why - Because we are born this way, and it’s as innate as our eye color. My sensitivity is my strength and source of Intuition- Because we must learn to use it, and not let it use us. We must embrace it and respect it. Saying NO is a healthy way to set boundaries- Because Empaths tend to worry about what others think and people please because of this. I’m ready to honor my sensitive nature - Because we cannot wish it away, and life is long. It is mightier to honor it than curse it. This is self love. I must first heal myself to guard against codependency- Because inner child wounds and trauma can lead us to need others in unhealthy ways. Healing allows us to find the pathway to empowerment. Only then can we use the gift without it using us. People don’t have the right to my energy all of the time - Because they will try as long as we allow it. Refer to I’m not here to fix anyone Taking care of my energy is my priority- Because self - care will lead us into healthy relationships instead of toxic ones. Boundaries around giving and getting overly involved are crucial. Knowing our limits, having alone time and getting ample rest are key to survival as an Empath. Reach out anytime and follow me on Instagram @marceyheschel for more on being an a Empath. See more

As an Empath, it’s important to differentiate between being EMPOWERED or UNAWARE. An Unaware Empath: Feels drained often Becomes Co-dependent ... attracts narcissists people pleases struggles with saying NO runs in negative circles struggles with self-love An EMPOWERED Empath : knows what he/ she/ Q wants manifests what he/ she/ q wants sets clear boundaries finds a passion and becomes dedicated to it practices self-care & self-love Different life stages can bring challenges. We can move in and out of being unaware or being empowered. The important thing is to recognize the gift and work towards using our wise mind to be empowered. For more info, support or just to share, DM me... Empath you’ve got this! I believe in you See more

As Empaths, we can struggle with overwhelming thoughts and feelings. By activating the Observing self, we can socially distance from our experience creating a distinction between the thoughts that arise and the self that is observing them. The Thinking Self: is Judgmental and starts us down a path of self- defeat Life shouldn’t be as it is I would be happier if .. ... The Observing Self: Open, Curious, Interested... Non Judgmental. Allow the moment - feelings- thoughts- space to breathe. Does not suppress. Allows. watching ourselves feel the pain- we can still feel pain and the unpleasant emotion but without tying all of our consciousness up in it. there’s that feeling again I notice I’m feeling... This is Essentially having EMPATHY for SELF... Paradoxically One of the most difficult things for Empaths to do. DM or comment and share your experience as an Empath, and how observing your thoughts might help you with overwhelming emotions and self-defeating thoughts. See more

Does your Inner Child need healing ? What are some benefits of this healing ? Inner child is work in therapy is difficult but perhaps the most important and rewarding. We first must identify that sometimes behind our self- limiting and defeating beliefs sits a hurt child in need of listening, affection,and healing. When did we begin to feel unworthy ? Unloveable? Unimportant ? Shame? ... What trauma did we leave behind but never resolve ? How do my reactions / responses showcase the need for healing ? Inner child work is the most important work I’ve ever done both personally and professionally Reach out if you’re interested in learning more. I can point you to great resources to begin this healing journey ! God knows I’m on my own Follow @marceyheschel on Instagram My upcoming posts will be centered around healing the inner child

How an Online Ladies Night Works ! Come sip with us Monday night, and learn all about Toxic Positivity vs Empathy and emotional validation ! Tickets available on Eventbrite through Wine,Women & Well-Being St. Albert

Being an EMPATH ... Blessing, Curse or Superpower? What do you think? From personal experience I would say that it’s a fine combination of all three of these things. It definitely made growing up difficult, but as an adult I’ve come to appreciate it. I’ve also learned how to use it with my clients in therapy, but not take on their emotions. That skill, I believe, is imperative for an Empath to learn and manage. In fact, learning to use it and not letting it use you is the quintessential key ... The Empaths Guide to Survival is a great book for Empaths looking for some guidance ... if you are a struggling Empath , please reach out ... I would be happy to provide some guidance

Think it. Feel it. Accept it. Let it Pass. In Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, ‘thought defusion ‘is when you observe your thoughts ... allowing them to come and go without judging them or fighting them. When we accept our thoughts and feelings, we can learn to detach from them and be present in the moment.

Raising Superheroes: Kids That Care If you want your kids to have confidence and empathy, give my new blog post a read. Happy Father’s Day http://marceyheschel.blog/2020/06/20/raising-kids-that-care/

Quote from my children’s book The Lonely Cloud. Empathy is a beautiful value to instill in our children. Not only does it teach them to connect with others on an emotional level, it also teaches them that doing so can make them feel good inside as well. My book is available in several places and the links are all on my website, www.marceyheschel.com. Get your copy today and share a special message with the children in your life. #teachthemyoung #childrensbooks #values #valuesmatter #empathymatters #empathy #compassion #fillyourcup #helpingothers #showkindness #whattheworldneedsnow #lovesweetlove #momwriter #writermom #lessons #lessonslearned #bookquotes #kidsbookstagram #canadianchildrensbookcentre @toffeefingerart @pei_jen7 @friesenpress @thelonelycloudbooks

New blog post : coping tools for these uncertain times. Enjoy ! http://marceyheschel.blog///27/the-corona-coaster-toolbox/

Shared a great Happy Hour chat yesterday with Lisa Webb of Wine, Women & Well-Being! We discussed mental health on the CoronaCoaster, and the value of Empathy! Also chatted a bit about my new children’s book The Lonely Cloud Watch it here or on Instagram @winewomenwellbeing IGTV

When someone shares their struggle with me, ... and I try to fix or solve.... I may mean well, but fixing and solving is not empathy. People often think that therapists are fixers... Nope. Empathy is about 3 extremely important connection skills...... 1. Holding Space - just being present for another person - truly present ( eye contact - no distraction ) 2. Attempting to Understand ( listening and asking questions to clarify and confirm what they mean) 2. Validating someone else’s emotional experience ( that must be tough for you .. when ...xyz) When a person feels validated and understood, it becomes more easy for them to find THEIR OWN solutions. Promise ! Don’t believe me. Try it. #empathymatters #validateme #buildconnection #noproblem #solutions #mommy #mommytherapist #momswhowrite #childrens #teachthemyoung

Please enjoy the trailer for The Lonely Cloud. It is a children’s book about EMPATHY. Purchase your copy on marceyheschel.com today @toffeefingerart @pei_jen7 #childrensauthor #canadianauthor #momswhowrite @canadianchildrensbookcentre @brenebrown #mentalhealth #colors #colormyworld #empathy #compassion #spreadingkindness #mission #heaventoearth #messageoflove #dreamscometrue

Please enjoy the trailer for The Lonely Cloud. Purchase your copy on marceyheschel.com today @toffeefingerart @pei_jen7 #childrensauthor #canadianauthor #momswhowrite @canadianchildrensbookcentre @brenebrown #mentalhealth #colors #colormyworld #empathy #compassion #spreadingkindness #mission #heaventoearth #messageoflove #dreamscometrue www.marceyheschel.com

There is no better way to become a children’s author than to know that you are sharing a message of empathy, love and compassion with the world Please visit my new website Marceyheschel.com To purchase your copy of The Lonely Cloud and learn more about my exciting upcoming project

I’m so excited because this coming week my dream is coming true ! My first children’s book The Lonely Cloud Will finally be officially published and available for purchase. I’ll also be launching my new website .. eeeeks! Stay tuned ! #thelonelycloud #empathy #compassion #love #understanding #childrensbooks #childrensauthor #followyourdreams #messageoflove #whattheworldneedsnow #momswhowritebooks @toffeefingerart

My children’s book is on its way in a time when the certainly needs a little empathy, love and compassion stay tuned

Kids are the best at just LIVING IN THE MOMENT . Taking the time to sit and mindfully color with Sophia is a helpful anxiety reliever for me. There’s a reason those adult coloring books became popular. Here I am, after a big move, unpacking, organizing and trying to create some normal for us all but still wondering why I’m feeling tired and slightly overwhelmed ... Well...this morning I remembered that Something as simple as coloring with my daughter allows me... to just BE PRESENT in the moment and slow down instead of Go-Go- Go. For those of us with anxiety , remember to take some time to just be present today and engage your senses. GROUNDING EXERCISE for ANXIETY : take a moment to breathe and just Become aware of 5 things you can see, 4 things you can hear, 3 things you can feel, 2 things you can smell and something you can taste. Does wonders to help bring you back to the moment. . #mindfulnesspractice #coloringforadults #learningfrommykids #crayola #simplepleasures #takethetime #anxietyreliever #mental #mentalhealth #groundingenergy #groundingexercise See more

We can definitely be in more than one zone at the same time. ... and that’s ok... as long as we : keep learning Keep growing even through fear Also, this is for SELF-EVALUATION only. When you start evaluating others, that’s fear zone based behavior. You know not the struggles others face .... SO, Be kind. ... #fearzone #learningzone #growthzone #covid #humanconsciousness #tobreathe #spiritualgrowth #spiritualjourney #breathe #ibreathethereforeiam See more