Monique Schmandt Life and Relationship Coaching

This is a great, informative article for both women and men. It really supports greater understanding of both sexes. http://www.drlindsaygibson.com/arti/what-sex-means-to-a-man

Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity. ~Pema Chödrön

Allowing yourself to carry on with negative thinking and letting yourself get caught up in your emotions, leads to one or more of the following: overwhelm, confusion, despair, powerlessness, hopelessness, paralysis ( meaning can’t move forward, stuck) and illness. You are not your negative thoughts and emotions. If you buy into their story, then you will create it and make it your reality. Is this what you want? The choice is yours. If this sounds like you and you are sick... and tired of your situation, and you want to transform your life now, private message me or email me at [email protected] We can set up a time to have a conversation about your situation, answer any questions and get clarity on whether coaching together is something you want, and if we are a good fit. Much love Monique

You can’t heal the people you love. You can’t make choices for them. You can’t rescue them. You can promise that they are not alone. You can loan them your map. ... But this trip is theirs. By Laura Jean Truman Much love and healing light to all in need Monique

Do you consistently get frustrated and mad at your partner for being and doing things a certain way? Are they unwilling to change? How is it that you aren’t willing to change? Standing on your position like a guard suited in armour isn’t going to get you anywhere but more misery. ... Have you had a heart centered conversation with your partner sharing with them that you want to hear their why? Their perspective, so that you can better understand them? There may be a good reason they are doing what they are doing, something you aren’t seeing, something you don’t know about them because they never shared with you. Each one of us is unique, with individual experiences from our up bringing, beliefs, traumas, etc... Listen to hear the person in front of you from your heart, from a place of nonjudgment, verses listening with your emotions and wanting to jab back. Jabbing back doesn’t resolve anything but making your ego feel better, and creating more separation. Setting an intention to understand and create a safe space where you both can share your feelings and your whys from a place of loving and owning your feelings and thoughts, opens the door to resolution. Healing happens when we come together with loving intentions to work together, understand, and be open to other perspectives. Life and relationships are multifaceted like a brilliant diamond Loving you Monique

Present moment anyone? Everything in the past, or the future, is no more or not yet, never the less so easily and effectively overpowers the present. The illusion that future happiness or fear, or past trauma or good times, IS reality, creates a disconnect with the present. The trick is to understand that while reality, in its hardness, lusciousness, challenges and victories, only overpowers timelessness and limitlessness when we allow it to.~Johann Kotze When I think abo...ut my journey that I started +20 years ago this above quote was me. I was either rewinding past events over and over in my head or I was in the future, planning and/or worrying, stressing. Being present with what is happening right now was a real challenge. How many of you have a challenge with this? Do you spend time with your kids, friends, etc.... and find yourself thinking about work or your to do list? Is there a part of you that feels guilt when enjoying yourself in the present moment? Loving you Monique

Absolutely love this quote Transformation is such a beautiful thing, it opens the door to such riches as joy, freedom, love, harmony, fulfillment and living a purposeful life . Loving you

Thank you Michael Naylor for sharing this "Your conflicts, all the difficult things, the problematic situations in your life are not chance or haphazard. They are actually yours. They are specifically yours, designed specifically for you by a part of you that loves you more than anything else. The part of you that loves you more than anything else has created roadblocks to lead you to yourself. You are not going to go in the right direction unless there is something pricki...ng you in the side, telling you, "Look here! This way!" The part of you loves you so much that it doesn't want you to lose the chance. It will go to extreme measures to wake you up, it will make you suffer greatly if you don't listen. What else can it do? That is its purpose. How much suffering, how much difficulty it brings us is immaterial in relation to the fulfillment and satisfaction you will have when you actually struggle and see the fruits of the struggle." (Diamond Heart Book One, p. 140.) See more

Outside the metro station there was a guy wearing a mask on his chin, smiling ear to ear, saying Bonjour to everyone passing by, sharing his joy . He was holding a fishing rod with a paper cup at the end of the string, honouring the social distancing rule. We just smiled at each other , me wearing my mask but I am sure he saw my smiling eyes . It brings me great joy to see people sharing their joy, it is a gift. It doesn’t cost money and you don’t have to be rich to ...spread love and joy Loving you Monique