Moose Anger Management
#203-402 West Pender St. V6B 1T6 Vancouver, BC, Canada

My father died ten years ago. I was surprised by how little I missed him. He was not an open book. It was not easy to get information out of him, like how he was feeling. Part of the reason I have dedicated my life to talking with men about their emotional experience is due to not learning this stuff growing up. I have compassion for my dad, because I know that his dad was even less available. I didn’t want to carry this tradition on with my children or anyone else in my life. I honour his experience by growing from it. I know what it is like to feel alone, even when you are around family. There is another way. #alone #grief #stoic #men

I get out into the trails almost daily. It recharges me, grounds me, and relaxes me. It might not be a trail. It can be a garden, a tree in the Neighbourhood or even plants in a house, but nature connects us to something bigger than ourselves. Without a connection with nature, life constricts. #nature #humannature #forestbathing #selfcare

When we truly see, hear, value and are loving toward that hurt angry little kid in ourselves and others, anger disappears and we begin to trust more, and feel safer. If that wasn’t your experience all the time when you were a kid, it takes more practice, awareness and courage. The result, is a depth of understanding of ourselves and others that changes the world. #seen #heard #valued #loved

Self compassion does not equal being passive, or not caring. Self compassion just means that you aren’t beating the crap out of yourself for your mistakes. We can be ambitious and compassionate. #compassion #innercritic #ambitious #shame

That uncomfortable feeling in your solar plexus, heart or gut occurs when we hold back or express the emotions in a manner that does not serve us, yelling, suppression, smiling when we are hurt, or losing it. It takes courage to become intimate with each emotion, especially if you were taught to suck it up as a kid. We become more alive when we express ourselves well. #emotions #emotionalintelligence #anger #depth #shame

I continue to learn about how the emotions move through or sometimes get stuck in my body. I’m so much better at being a loving partner, father, and friend than I was, especially from when I was younger. I’m grateful that my kids grew up with a father that had more emotional ability than I grew up with. Still on the journey! #feelthelove #createthelove #love #relationships

The more authentic & vulnerable we are on the baggage we are carrying, the more likely we are to lighten our load. How aware are you of: the sadness of being let down by family? or of your perfectionism, controlling/fastidious side, reactiveness, avoidance, sarcastic side, cynicism etc. The more we are able to acknowledge this stuff, the easier it will be to put down. #baggage #abandonment #perfectionist #shadowwork

Who doesn’t dissociate by submerging into social media, or other things to avoid, take a break from life? A reminder to me, & perhaps to you as well to get off your phone and interact with people, writing, nature, art, music & all the inspiring things that make up your life. #electronicsedation #sedation #numb #avoiding

It’s about how we respond after making the biggest most hurtful mistakes that sets a trajectory for our lives. Step back into dignity with compassion, empathy, by taking responsibility and committing to change. Then vulnerably follow through with that change in a manner that holds you accountable. This creates a good life. #accountability #bethechange #dignity #dailygratitude

Absolute vulnerability and compassion are the most powerful weapons you have when making an apology. One excuse empties them of all that power. A powerful apology can change the giver of the apology, and in the long run, with follow through, deepen the relationship. #excuses #apology #compassion #vulnerability

Having a healthy relationship with anger means that you can choose what to do with it. The anger is going to rise up in you, and when it does so unexpectedly, it is difficult to deal with, but when you have practiced a lot, you are much more likely to be wise and loving in expressing it. That is what every emotion needs, to be expressed in a healthy manner. #anger #loving #love #angermanagement

Especially for those of us that had a lot of negativity, criticism and judgement around us growing up, it’s hard to be kind in our self talk. But, when we are kind to ourselves, we take better care of ourselves emotionally, physically, spiritually, and more. It is only then that our integrity builds so that our kindness to others has more power. Practice. #kindnesspower #selftalk #selfloathing #kindness

Silence will not protect you. This is true on multiple levels, from intimate relationships, through to global issues, such as Black Lives Matters, to voter suppression and corruption. To stay in integrity, while silence may serve us at times temporarily, we must address the conflicts that inhabit us, our community, and country, globe. #silence #passive #blacklivesmatter #corruption

If there’s one thing that triggers most of us beyond all the others, it’s spending time with family. Family is where our greatest learning awaits us, only if we work it. This doesn’t mean that you spend time with people that are cruel to you. Setting healthy boundaries is part of this. #enlightened #triggered #family #angermanagement

Anger can help us address the difficult things that arise in life. When love is aligned with anger, compassion keeps us humble enough to be wise. Things may turn out well, or maybe not, but at the end of the day you still have your dignity, rather than the shame we have all felt from blowing up or deflating and saying I’m fine. #anger #compassion #feelthelove #conflict

Growth occurs, emotional growth, spiritual growth, when we step to the edge. Fear is there, but the drive to deepen a relationship, be that with yourself or another, is stronger than the fear. We need to step to the edge to feel more alive and engaged in life. #anger #breakthrough #emotionalgrowth #angermanagement

Anger has a history. There are always current circumstances that include a trigger, which is important to attend to, but without looking at the big picture, which includes our and our family’s history, we only touch the surface. #anger #angermanagement #history #selfawareness

Anger is the guardian of our boundaries. When people mistreat us, lie, cheat, or disrespect us, anger tells us to pay attention. Then our job is to figure out what to do with the life energy of the anger. We can dramatize it, or we can intentionally choose how to respond wisely. #anger #intentional #angermanagement #politicians

To be fully present with another we must be fully present with ourselves. Being connected deeply with our own emotions, the ones that resonate through our bodies, gives us the means to be with those experiences in another. Meditation can help get there. #beingpresent #listening #presence #empathy