Modern Mourning Wear

What to wear when you're grieving. It's often difficult or feels inappropriate to speak up about our personal and immediate experience of grief. Enter Modern Mourning Wear. For those days when you have to be out in the world and you're feeling ragged and close to the bone.... Buttons and T-shirts, bumper stickers and shopping bags that say 'I'm in Mourning, Please be Gentle'. "I'm Grieving, Go Easy!" By sharing our mourning statement on a button or a t-shirt, we're honoring our grief and helping the people we meet; inviting kindness and understanding. https://www.modernmourningwear.com

Personalize your mourning wear with the name of your beloved. Sometimes we need the world to know we're grieving without saying anything. There used to be the obvious clothing; mourning wear that was a recognized symbol of our loss. Now, when someone we love has died and we are in mourning, our clothing doesn’t say we’re bereaved but we still have to go to the grocery store, we still have to pick up our mail, we still have to show up in public places. Say it on a sweatshirt, a t-shirt, a pin or a hat. Personalize your mourning wear with the name of your person or pet.

Modern Mourning Wear. What to wear when you're grieving It's often difficult or feels inappropriate to speak up about our personal and immediate experience of grief. In Victorian times, bereaved women wore clothing that was unmistakably Mourning Wear. It was a prescribed and instantly recognized fashion both in its material and in the length of time the mourner would wear it. You knew they were grieving the death of a family member and by modifications to the costume, one kne...w if it was a recent or particularly devastating loss. Today, there are a great many 'colored ribbons' that tell the world you are in solidarity with a particular illness or cause. A black ribbon could be the perfect 'symbol for mourning' but it's already well employed. A black ribbon is worn in remembrance of the victims of 9/11, for Melanoma awareness, in remembrance of the Virginia Tech Massacre, for Narcolepsy, Primary Biliary Cholangitis, Sleep Apnea and Sleep Disorders. Death is not a disease. A black ribbon will never say 'My Mom Died' or 'I just buried my husband'. A black armband doesn't say; "This is personal. I'm grieving my beloved". Enter Modern Mourning Wear. For those days when you have to be out in the world and you're feeling ragged and close to the bone. Buttons and T-shirts, bumper stickers and shopping bags that say 'I'm in Mourning, Please be Gentle'. "I'm Grieving, Go Easy!" Helen Keller recognized the universality of grief. She wrote: "We bereaved are not alone. We belong to the largest company in all the world - the company of those who have known suffering. When it seems that our sorrow is too great to be borne, let us think of the great family of the heavy hearted into which our grief has given us entrance, and inevitably, we will feel about us their arms, their sympathy, their understanding." By sharing our mourning statement on a button or a t-shirt, we're honoring our grief and helping the people we meet; inviting kindness and understanding. https://www.modernmourningwear.com

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It's often difficult or feels inappropriate to speak up about our personal and immediate experience of grief. In Victorian times, bereaved women (and to a lesser degree; men and children, too) wore clothing that was unmistakably Mourning Wear. It was a prescribed and instantly recognized fashion both in its material and in the length of time the mourner would wear it. You knew they were grieving the death of a family member and by modifications to the costume, one knew if it ...was a recent or particularly devastating loss. Today, there are a great many 'colored ribbons' that tell the world you are in solidarity with a particular illness or cause. A black ribbon could be the perfect 'symbol for mourning' but it's already well employed. A black ribbon is worn in remembrance of the victims of 9/11, for Melanoma awareness, in remembrance of the Virginia Tech Massacre, for Narcolepsy, Primary Biliary Cholangitis, Sleep Apnea and Sleep Disorders. Death is not a disease. A black ribbon will never say 'My Mom Died' or 'I just buried my husband'. A black armband doesn't say; "This is personal. I'm grieving my beloved". Enter Modern Mourning Wear. For those days when you have to be out in the world and you're feeling ragged and close to the bone. Buttons and T-shirts, bumper stickers and shopping bags that say 'I'm in Mourning, Please be Gentle'. "I'm Grieving, Go Easy!" By sharing our mourning statement on a button or a t-shirt, we're honoring our grief and helping the people we meet; inviting kindness and understanding. https://www.modernmourningwear.com

An elder Mourning Cloak Butterfly. She is known as the Harbinger of Spring, being one of the first butterflies to emerge. Mourning Cloak butterflies live for about a year, longer than most butterflies. They overwinter as adults in a hibernaculum and reappear in springtime. The wings of Mourning Cloak butterflies are similar to traditional mourning wear, but dark purple mourning dresses with a hint of trim were a matter of half-mourning in Victorian England, whereas full mourning dresses were jet black.

Please stay safe in these uncertain times. We can learn a lot from tragedy in history, as can be seen in this memento mori (remember you will die) mourning ring.... Like today, the 1660s were indeed very uncertain times. Several events during the reign of Charles II led to the rise of the mourning jewellery industry. These were a combination of the Great Plague of London in 1665, with a mortality rate of an estimated 100,000 people, causing the king to flee London to Salisbury in July 1665. The Great Fire of London in September 2nd, 1666 was another such occurrence that, while not causing the high mortality rate of the plague, decimated London (13,200 houses, 87 churches) and left a lasting impression on a culture that had been challenged through political and religious thought. #staysafe #coronavirus #history #jewels #learning #memory #death #art #events

Mourning is the purist form of memory and love, so its identity and message is adapted by a community quickly through its fashion. #mourningwear #mourning #grief #mourningfashion

A colleague offers amazing grief support. I know it is even tougher during the Christmas season when dealing with a loss. https://robinsuttin.com/

A documentary about this research recently won an award at the Barcelona Film Festival. A book about this research, titled, Death is but a Dream comes out in February, and ten countries have bought copies in advance. Netflix is also doing a full episode about this research next fall.

Beannacht (by John O’Donohue) Sometimes all you can do is bless someone and wish them blessing. You can’t change what they’re going through, though you wish you could. It’s difficult to figure out how to ease their suffering or bear their burden. Sometimes all you can do is send them love from within, hold hope for them when they can’t for themselves and send them blessing. Beannacht is the Gaelic word for blessing. A currach is a large boat used on the west coast of ...Ireland. https://youtu.be/ZfvS2LYbZLQ

Mourning fashion wasn’t what we generally think of before the 1860s. White was typical and in the 18th century, the stages of mourning were more for the higher ...levels of society. Take into account this marvellous depiction from La Belle Assemblée: c.1827 A lady wearing a black (mourning) dinner party dress with flower and chevron detailing at the top of the bodice, lace collar and bunching around the hem. #mourning #fashion #blackdress #19thcentury #georgian