New Moon Healing

Codependency is the result of being raised in homes where there are no clear boundaries. Where one member within the family unit creates the entire emotional st...ate of the home. Codependency can often feel like a close family unit because there is little separation or privacy. Underneath this false closeness there’s lack of true emotional connection. We end up playing a role (rescuer, fixer, enabler) to function within this conditioning. As we leave our primary homes, we carry this conditioning with us. We enter relationships with other people who (similar to us) don’t have clear boundaries. Because we’ve lost connection to our authentic, core self, we end up performing for love. We view our relationships as a way to find our own self worth. Because most of us have been emotionally abandoned as children, we are fixated on the fear of abandonment as adults. We continue to deny, repress, or betray parts of who we truly are in order to be chosen. In order to not feel that pain again. This cycle + pattern of behavior occurs because we have a foundation of core beliefs that are not true. This create a mental prison where we are always seeking for someone outside of ourselves to show us how to think + how to feel. 1. What other people think of you is a perception. It does not define you. 2. We are not responsible for the emotional states of others. We are responsible for our own emotional states + for doing the work to regulate those emotions. 3. There is no part of us that is unworthy or unlovable. We have this false belief from a parent-figure who unconsciously denied parts of us. Humanness is messy. Our shadows are nothing to be ashamed of. 4. Saying no + prioritization of self care is the greatest act of self love we can engage in. 5. Our wants, needs, + desires are key in actualizing our human potential. Denying this creates resentment + unhealthy dynamics because we are living life through the idea of someone else #selfhealers