Nicole Pesta Psychological Services
316 - 1167 Kensington Crescent NW Calgary, AB, Canada

PLEASURE AFFIRMATION (heard at ConvergeCon this weekend from Keynote Speaker Shadeen Francis LMFT) I am deserving of pleasure. The possibilities for pleasure in my life are endless. I do not need to earn my right to pleasure.... I can create pleasure for myself. My problems are real but do not change my right to pleasure. My pleasure is the pathway to my power. I will build from my power. My dreams create my reality. The world needs what I have to offer. I am enough. I am enough. I am enough. See more

31. Healing is a Lifelong Journey Experiences can hurt us, move us, change us, scar us, heal us. Life will ebb and flow, and just as learning is a spiral journey, so too is our healing. As we learn deeper truths, so too do we build our propensity to heal more deeply. We are all healers.

30. Healing Needs to be Holistic The greatest healing takes place through the sum of many parts. Trauma touches us in all forms physiologically, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, and collectively. Thus, we cannot expect to fully heal a wound through any one means or mechanism. It’s important to compassionately identify all the places in ourselves where we hold our wounds: in our mind as mistaken beliefs about ourselves or the world; in our body as protective posture, tension, or pain; in our emotional selves, by avoiding certain feelings through numbing or denial; in our spiritual selves, by shielding ourselves with jadedness; in the collective, through ongoing discrimination or indifference; etc.

Had so much fun chatting with Kirstin on Virgin Radio about simple selfcare tips! Tune in to her show now to learn more about the 3 pillars of self-care: https://www.iheart.com/live/985-virgin-radio-7492/

29. Your Emotions are Valid/There are No Bad Emotions Emotions can be uncomfortable. Expressing our emotions can make others uncomfortable too. Though we have a choice for how to express our feelings, it’s important to not try to label them as good or bad. Emotions are simply data, energy. If you are feeling something, let yourself. The sooner you feel it, the sooner you can heal it. What we avoid expands, so instead turn towards, identify the feeling, sit with it, try to understand why it is there and what it is asking from you, express it in a healthy non-offensive manner and notice how it transforms.

28. Trust Your Intuition, Trust Yourself Listen to your body when it speaks. Feeling a knot in your stomach? Why is it there? Noticing a lump in your throat? What are you not feeling able to share? Our physiology tries to warn us, to get our attention, to ask for what it needs, but we often have learned over the course of lives to ignore, suppress, or label those parts as wrong. Often we’ve misunderstood these messages, and have conditioned ourselves away from trusting self, perhaps preferring to rationalize our feelings away. Start to turn towards your body, towards yourself, and find the wisdom within.