Okanagan Health and Wellness Clinic

NEW: Food Therapy :for children :for adults The battle with food, the fear of food, the worry about food, the control of food, the restriction of food, the inability to eat with freedom, the obsession with food, the hatred of food, the worship of food, the inability to regulate food's place in our life.... If you, your child, or a loved one needs an intervention to healthify your/their relationship with food, contact us for details. We work with children, teens, adults, seniors and families. Okanagan Health and Wellness www.okanaganhealthandwellness.com [email protected] Tel/text: 250-718-8856

This generation is filled with children, youth and adults who don’t have healthy coping skills in order to deal with life’s disappointments and traumas. Self-harm is the first place they go to, for all disappointments and pain. Wanting to die is second nature. They don’t even know there are healthy ways of coping. Ask us about our workshops and private counselling for all ages dealing with self-harm. Let’s make some positive changes. Okanagan Health and Wellness ... www.okanaganhealthandwellness.com [email protected] tel/text: 250-718-8856 See more

God created you to be victorious, not to live with (and accept) infirmity of the mind and body! If you would like help understanding how that can look for your life and health, we are here Okanagan Health and Wellness www.okanaganhealthandwellness.com e: [email protected]... tel/text: 250-718-8856 See more

INDIVIDUALIZED MARRIAGE INTENSIVES People get married believing the best about the other person. They choose that other person over anyone else in the entire world. Most times, the possibility of problems, misunderstandings, betrayals, and abuse down the line isn’t even considered before saying Yes, I do! People say that love is blind, and sadly there so often comes a time in marriage where the reality of what you’re living in and with becomes something you never actual...ly planned on accepting in your life. With that realization comes some crossroads decisions to be made. Questions of whether the marriage actually matters, if you actually matter in the marriage, what you are to do with your hopes and needs in the marriage, what to do with the toxic behaviors in the marriage, if you are stuck if the other person will not change, and if you are the problem for wanting things to change all get addressed in our individualized and customized marriage intensives. You have options. We at Okanagan Health and Wellness offer very personalized marriage counselling and mediation, depending on where you are at and what decisions need to be made. We offer counsel, support, accountability, plans, conflict resolution, support groups and workshops. We counsel from a perspective of change, because unless there is change, your marriage remains the same. And people who resign themselves to the fact that they have no options, and no right to need things done differently, are at great risk of mental, emotional and physical health decline. Our Marriage Intensives (an individual one-to-one marriage retreat that covers a year’s worth of counselling in a weekend) have amazing testimonials and results; marriages turned around, re-ignited, looking at a completely new future. And sometimes, resolve and closure is what is needed. When conflict has escalated and there is no foreseeable way to come to a resolution, we specialize in conflict resolution in a variety of different ways, and we can help from the place you are at today to the place you want to get to, at the pace you need. We can help you find the answers. We book appointments days, evenings and weekends. You can have in-office appointments or we can meet you at your home or office. We offer billing hour by hour, or we have monthly payment plans. We care about you, we care about your marriage, and we are here when you are ready. Okanagan Health and Wellness www.okanaganhealthandwellness.com [email protected] Tel/text: 250-718-8856

The Feels of 2020 Every year brings ups and downs in people’s lives, in their marriages and families, and in finances. Stresses come and go. Tragedies happen and are healed from. This year, 2020, has taken what is a general norm of up and down stress and has amplified it to the degree that people are needing to manage the constant high level of stress, fear, anxiety, uncertainty and isolation that has come with Covid-19 and its repercussions, without a resolve. Individuals ...are suffering. Marriages are in conflict. Families are in chaos. And I’ve seen the highest rise of children-in-counselling ever, this year, with a 10x rise in ages 10-17 in my practice. Homeschooling poses unique challenges to both parents and children. Being back in school, with all of the restrictions and rules, is incredibly difficult on students, teachers and administration. Working, not working, trying to school online, trying to be social and fulfill emotional social needs (especially for extroverts) while maintaining social distance and limited numbers, along with the public’s fear of contamination. Device usage (for all ages) is up substantially, giving rise to sleep issues, irritability, aggression and fights, depression, and high anxiety. We at Okanagan Health and Wellness (Okanagan Christian Counselling) offer very personalized emotional health, mental health and relational health counselling and mediation for children, teens, adults, couples and families. It matters to us what you are going through. We want to help you with the areas of your life that you don’t have the answers or tools for. We can be your support, your counsel and your encouragement. Don’t let 2020 dictate how your are going to feel. Let’s make a plan to change the narrative so that, no matter the circumstances, you and your loved ones can come out on top. We offer counsel, support, accountability, plans, conflict resolution, support groups and workshops. We counsel from a perspective of change, because unless there is change, things remains the same. And people who resign themselves to the fact that they have no options are at great risk of mental, emotional and physical health decline. Can you rise above the feels of 2020? We can help you find that answer. We book appointments days, evenings and weekends. You can have in-office appointments or we can meet you at your home or office. We offer billing hour by hour, or we have monthly payment plans. We care about you, we care about your relationships, we care about your health, and we are here when you are ready. Deana Van Fleet, RPC, RTC, RCC, RCM Okanagan Christian Counselling www.okanaganchristiancounselling.com Okanagan Health and Wellness www.okanaganhealthandwellness.com Clinic (by appointment only): #21 1873 Spall Road, Kelowna Tel/Text: 250-718-8856 Email: [email protected]

I need a new start. I need a do-over. We can help you with a new start. There is no time like now for a fresh beginning! We are here when you are ready. We book days, evenings and weekends. We counsel in person, by video, by phone and text. We can help.... Okanagan Health and Wellness www.okanaganhealthandwellness.com [email protected] Tel/text: 250-718-8856

Happy 2021 from Okanagan Health and Wellness!

The brain is wired to avoid pain and anxiety. Over time, when you continue to avoid things that cause you fear or anxiety, a pattern builds up, causing you to respond almost automatically to any situations that would cause you anxiety. But you cannot allow a pattern of fear and avoidance rule you. If you are afraid of making a mistake, you will never make bold moves. If you are afraid of upsetting or disappointing people, you will never be able to deal with discomfort in rela...tionships. You’ll be the one who continues to struggle and suffer. In my experience, many great people go through a three-stage process when it comes to facing their fears. First, they fear it and put it off. Next, they push through the fear, make the decision, and it is painful. And finally, they wonder why they waited so long to make it after the pain is gone and they have resolved the problem. As these stages are internalized, and they become aware of them, people find it easier to make these hard calls. But as long as you don't confront those uncomfortable feelings, your emotions will control your actions. Grow past the fear! Look at what you are afraid of and get to the bottom of it. Is it failure? Is it loss of approval? It is fear of confrontation? Is it fear of causing someone distress? Is it fear of change? And remember: You can have fears without being "fearful." "Fearful" is when you let your fears make your decisions for you, so... don't let fear make your decisions for you! Having fear is normal. Being "fearful" is dysfunctional. (Dr. Henry Cloud) Let us help you get to the bottom of your fears so you can walk strong and make decisions boldly. We counsel in person and by video, phone, text and email. We are covered by most insurance and extended health, by ICBC, Autism funding, MCFD, and Victim Services (BC). Okanagan Health and Wellness www.okanaganhealthandwellness.com [email protected] Tel/text: 250-718-8856

Okanagan Health and Wellness offers PRE-MARITAL COUNSELLING (for people planning on getting married or people already married that didn’t get pre-marital counselling originally). We offer affordable counselling, leading couples (individually and as a couple) through the hard questions which lead them to the necessary perspectives and knowledge needed to create and keep a successful marriage. Okanagan Health and Wellness www.okanaganhealthandwellness.com [email protected] Tel/text: 250-718-8856 See more

If every time you share your heart (or share a need), the conversation gets flipped back to how you are the reason you are not getting what you need, you are to blame, and by the way, you’re also to blame for this, this, and that... This is toxic behavior called blame-shifting. Gaslighting is crazy-making. Deflection.... Stonewalling. Silent treatment Denial. Blame. ABUSE. Toxic. We are here when you’re ready. We counsel in-person, by video, telephone, text and email. Okanagan Health and Wellness www.okanaganhealthandwellness.com [email protected] tel/text: 250-718-8856