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Make No fun again! Toddlers love the word No! They instinctively understand its power and they glory it. In the independence and self empowerment it offers. ... They roll around the word No like a horse rolls around grass in the spring. They love it. We loved it! Then it was trained out of us. We were taught that it was socially inappropriate to say no. That saying no hurts other people’s feelings. *Accept the hug from creepy Uncle George. *Eat that cake Aunty Betty made, even though you detest raisins. *Of course you love wearing that scratchy dress Granny bought you - that nylon thread was expensive. We fell into wanting to please our mothers, fathers, school, community. Of course we did. It’s normal to want to fit in as a child. That’s the safe zone, where the food, shelter and love is. What’s less effective is keeping that habit up when we go out into the world, unable to say no to people who don’t actually have our best interests at heart. When we can’t say no even though we are exhausted, overwhelmed, and trying to live up to other people's unrealistic expectations. What if we took No back? Does that feel shocking? To say No to something you don’t want? Shocking or secretly delicious??? What if we took five days out of our lives to stop pleasing other people and start pleasing ourselves? Five days to roll around in the Power of No! The Joy of No! The epic wonder of actually using that two letter word - guilt free! Join the Five Day No challenge starting Monday, June 1st. Clink the link and get ready to make saying NO fun again.

If you are one of the people NOT finding this a time of rest and recuperation, then this is for you. When you are overwhelmed. When your head is frazzled. ... When you have too much to do and not enough time in which to do it, then it's time to do LOTS. Write a rough list of what you think needs to get done. Give each task one of the letters in the word LOTS. L - Lose it - get rid of the things that don’t HAVE to be done. Yes, it would be nice if the shower got scrubbed down but really, in the greater scheme of things, does it really make a difference? Yes, it would be lovely if you made the kids dinner from scratch, AGAIN, but really they will be just as happy to order a pizza. O - Off load it. Ask your kids to unload the dishwasher. Pay someone to deliver something that is going to take you an afternoon to pick up. Hire out a task that it will take a professional a fraction of the time to do. T - Treat - give yourself a reward for doing the thing that is unpleasant or overwhelming you. Make the task more tolerable by doing it with someone. Listen to a podcast on the treadmill. Fold the laundry while chatting to a friend on Zoom. Have a fancy coffee before going for that annual check up. Practice associating unpleasant tasks with something you like to do so that they become less overwhelming. S - Sit in silence for a few minutes and really listen to your mind. Let the swirling stop and concentrate on the things that are really necessary versus the things you tell yourself have to be done. It’s so easy to go down the rabbit hole of feeling that there is a finish line in life - a time when everything will be done. A day when we can sit back on the front porch, cocktail in hand, and relax because the laundry is all done, the in box is empty, all the kids are sorted, your relationships are perfect and so forth. That day does not come. The time to take that breath is today. Right now. Give yourself a few minutes of calm. You deserve it, simply because you are here, breathing. (Photo by Nathan Fertig on Upsplash)

On this St Patrick's Day I was thinking of how Irish people have travelled all over the globe. And no matter how far they go - they, and their families, always feel that connection with Ireland. It reminds me of that connection we feel with others when we stop and breathe for a bit, being really present with what is, right at this moment. I am offering a gift now, to bring some calm and peace to melt the worry and anxiety that can so easily clog our minds. ... For the next few weeks, I will be sending out meditations over email. Sign up below and accept the gift of calm for yourself, your family and all those you care about. https://mailchi.mp/orlaclecoaching/bringinthecalm

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Do you want a peaceful, joy filled Christmas this year? One where you are not wondering at the end why you didn't get time to actually enjoy time doing things you enjoy with the people you love? Enrol in People Please to Christmas Ease and make this the Christmas YOU actually enjoy. People Please to Christmas Ease starts November 4th. Sign up here. https://www.orlaclecoaching.com/people-please-to-christmas-

Come home to the light inside.