Pam Millar Wellness

note to self....YOU THE SHIT MAMA! I seriously have to remind myself multiple times a day that I am worthy just as I am. I am enough, today and everyday. As a caregiver, I take pride in providing the care my patients need. I am thoroughly a giver of all I have to offer. And to be honest, the feel good feeling I get from helping others is somewhat addictive so I repeat repeat repeat. ... But the backwards, dumbass, internal, non logical part of my brain feels bad for those around me for me being sick! Like it’s my fault?!? Seriously - I feel like a burden. I feel like a failure as a wife, mom, coach and friend. I’ve researched it and what I’m feeling is actually normal BUT IT IS ALSO ASININE and DUMB! So many times I’ve had conversations with patients who express to me that they feel like a burden to their families and I say if the tables were turned and your loved one was sick, would you feel like they are a burden? And EVERY SINGLE TIME THE PERSON ADAMANTLY SAYS NO WAY! Sick or people with any disease or limited physical abilities (like moi) ARE NOT A BURDEN! And - IT IS NOT THEIR FAULT! So. I’m putting this out there for for anyone who is feeling like this and needs the reminder. But I’m also putting it out there for a reminder to myself! Pam - you’re still a badass baby! And to each and every one of of you..... YOU ARE ENOUGH! YOU ARE A BADASS BABES! xx P #notetoselfyoutheshitmama #iamnotaburden #iamenough #actuallyiammorethanenough #tiedyeshirt #grayhairandtattoos #nanatobe #imanurseandapatient

Seize the grey! I used to colour my hair to hide the roots. To hide the real me. And to be honest, I don’t regret it those days because that was the season I was in. We all go through seasons in life and colouring my hair, curling my poker straight hair (remember the perms of the 80’s?) as well as cutting my hair in more hairstyles than I can even remember were seasons in my life. ... No regrets! But in 2017, I decide to give the au natural a try and I gotta say, I’ve never looked back! I love my natural colour! I most definitely have seized the grey! Today, there is so much pressure to look a certain way. - Perfect size - Perfect hair - Perfect skin - Perfect teeth - Perfect blah blah blah But the reality is that we are all IMPERFECTLY PERFECT! There is a kind of beauty in imperfection! ~ Conrad Hall So each and every one of us is beautiful! Embrace your beauty! Seize your happy in your beauty! xxP

#bekind Remember this........ Kindness is like sunshine ... So get out there and spread some sunshine no matter the weather!! PS.....make sure you share some of that kindness and sunshine to yourself! xx P #greyhairstyles #fabover50 #kindnessiscontagious #kindnessrocks #bekindtoyourself #selfiegram

When my body needs a rest, I lay my head on the pillow and tell myself You are strong because you have made it through another day! It’s a mindset makeover. I could easily be mad, upset, frustrated and grumpy because I am not able to do what I once was able to do and things I prefer to do. ... Or. I can give myself some grace and celebrate even the tiniest of wins including showering and putting on some mascara! Each day I face challenges due to my symptoms (which we still do not have answers about yet but we are working hard on getting answers) but each day I also purposely find something good. In fact, my goal each day is to have more on the good column than the bad! That way, I go to bed feeling blessed! What is in your GOOD COLUMN today? Share below so we can celebrate together! #sharewhatsgood #sayyestotherest #restwhenneeded #grayhairandtattoos #pillowtalk

Positivity breeds positivity. Patience and grace are essential gifts for yourself. Persistence wins when you’re feeling defeated!

The key to being happy is knowing you have the power to choose what to celebrate and what to let go! So.......practice this ery single day Inhale the ... Exhale the ! And always ! Thankful for feeling all the positive vibes today!

What do you do when you’re sick of feeling sick! GOOGLE THAT ISH!! Yep - I literally just googled this because I am in fact !... First off, I learned that what I am feeling is totally ! (Imagine my pleasant surprise knowing I’m )!! I also learned that you can’t force the sick of being sick feeling to go away by denying that it’s present. In fact, denial may only intensify the feeling. Feeling like shit is hard - so I need to start acknowledging that it’s not easy and accept that sometimes you’re just plain sick of being sick. Another lesson I learned today is that self-compassion is crucial because it keeps self-blame from sneaking in. Adding blame into the mix only makes you feel worse. I am unwell at present and that’s a fact of life. It’s not my fault, unless you want to call being born your fault! And finally, if it’s helpful, have a good ol’ fashion cry!! Crying can be cleansing. It’s a challenge to cope with this unexpected turn that life has taken. If crying helps, cry. But I don’t allow that cry to become a breeding ground for unhelpful thoughts, such as Why me? Think of a good cry as cleansing, like a cleansing bath. Lessons..... - I am normal - It is hard - It is not my fault - Have a cry and move on Oh....and snap a cute selfie with a smile to remember that life is grand no matter what!

Miss Allie...... When the day came for me to choose my coach, my mentor, my fitfam leader, I CHOSE YOU! Why???... Let us count the reasons..... You are a fucking badass! You are one of the funniest peeps ever! You lead from the heart and soul - you believe in your tribe when we may not quite believe in ourselves! You are not only a kinder teacher but a phenomenal teacher of what it takes to make your dreams come true! Did I mention you’re fucking hilarious?? You continue to be a shining star on my social media feed daily as well as such a close friend, date I say loving and supportive family member in our texts ery single day! You’re there when we need ya coach but even more than that, you’re there for me as a mentor and friend whenever I need you! So today we celebrate your team as Elite but we celebrate you for guiding the ship and building that plane while we fly it! Love you! Congrats!!! @allie.stgermain @ashliemolstad #teamblissfullybrave @blissfullybrave #eliteaf

You can do , But not ! This season of life is unexpected, unwelcomed and unfun it is just that, a season!... I can be my best me , but only if I ditch the poor me attitude. So my taunt to life’s current season is not why me! Instead it is...... " #pma #positivemindsetattitude #tryme #iamanovercomer