Port Credit Therapy Centre
12 Front St. S., 2nd Floor L5H 2C4 Mississauga, ON, Canada

Shared by Teresa Grace

Generational patterns repeat when people parent how they were parented. And act in ways that are familiar but not healthy. You can change generational patterns ...by acknowledging what you experienced and making a choice to do something different. Many children learn by what they see modeled by the adults around them. Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them. ~James Baldwin #nedranuggets #cyclebreakers

Parenting gently when you’re triggered.

Relationships are hard

Breaking things down into small pieces is the ticket for recovery, for procrastination spirals and for many of the areas in our life where we feel stuck, especially during this pandemic. Feeling unproductive at home? Do one thing each day in order to keep moving forward, even if it's only picking up the socks on the floor you've been staring at for a week. It is still a step forward. #drglenndoylequotes #procrastination #getunstuck #babysteps #psychotherapytips #therapytips #psychotherapy #portcredittherapycentre

Sometimes we can get stuck clinging to people we know aren't good for us. Often it's the void that we're afraid of, not losing the person. Sometimes being in a relationship can be the proof we have needed since childhood, that we are in fact lovable. Be careful, however, if there is a "regardless" in the sentence..."I love them regardless of how much they've hurt me." We can romanticize toxic relationships when we confuse a trauma bond with true love. #traumabond #trauma #traumainformed #unhealthyrelationships #toxicrelationships #dysfunctionalrelationships #psychotherapytips #psychotherapy #therapytips #portcredittherapycentre

"Why do we find it so easy to attack ourselves? Many of us say stuff to ourselves that we wouldn’t DREAM of saying to someone else. We’re harder on ourselves ...than we would ever be on anyone else. We give other people many benefits of many doubts that we don’t give ourselves. Why? After all, most of us supposedly know how important it is to love ourselves. We have the importance of self-love stuffed down our throats by inspirational quote after inspirational quote after inspirational quote. So what’s our deal? Why are we so hard on ourselves. For many of us, it’s what we saw modeled. We grew up with people who didn’t give us the benefit of the doubt. We grew up with people who were quick to dismiss the things we did right or well- -but perseverate on the missteps we made. Very often, when we grow up believing we are undeserving or incompetent, we seek out evidence for those beliefs in our behaviorand we find it. That is, we find it by focusing on the stuff that we don’t do well, the stuff at which we fail, the stuff that doesn’t work outand telling ourselves that that’s evidence of the real us. The other stuff, the stuff that goes well and works out and that we’re good at? That stuff doesn’t count. After all, as many of us were told repeatedly growing up, even a broken clock is right twice a day. The truth is, no child growing up is inherently badbut we have that message programmed into us again and again. Some of it is cultural. Many of us grew up misunderstanding the concept of Original Sin (the Christian Judeo idea that, at some point in human history, human beings disobeyed God, as dramatized by the Biblical story of Adam and Eve and that every human is henceforth born in a state of sin that needs to somehow be cleansed) to mean that we, personally, are in a position of swimming upstream against our essential badness. Some of us grew up being beaten over the head with what we were told was tough love which, oddly, seemed long on the tough, but a little short on the love. But for most of us, it’s pretty straightforward: one way or another, we internalized the idea that we were not competent at life nor worthy or happiness. If we happened to display competence, it was a fluke or so we were made to feel. if we happened to be happy for a moment, it was undeserved or so we were made to feel. Many of us did not grow up believing that we had the ability to become competent at life and that we had the right to be happy. So what now?" Read more:

"Having spent decades in communication with each other, parents and adult children risk falling into age-inappropriate communication patterns. Adult children may lapse into speaking and acting younger than they are, particularly during disagreements."