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Sexual education is a huge passion of mine. I truly believe the world is a better place with happy women in it - so I'm running a workshop that will help out with that! Feel free to share this if you know anyone who may be interested.

For local Victorians who like to be active, come check out my self-compassion for climbers workshop. For people interested but who cannot participate, Ill post a follow-up blog about this topic that will be relevant to your self-compassion in general!

Anyone familiar with the original Giving Tree story? This version has a few tweaks that make all the difference!

We human beings are social creatures. We thrive when we feel connected. How about you, how are you keeping connected in your life?

Suppressing thoughts and feelings that we do not enjoy doesnt work out well for us in the long-term. Noticing and naming your emotions can help you to feel a bit better, and to start reconnecting with your emotional intelligence for a more stable mental state.

Suppressing thoughts and feelings that we do not enjoy doesn't work out well for us in the long-term. Noticing and naming your emotions can help you to feel a bit better, and to start reconnecting with your emotional intelligence for a more stable mental state.

We have discussed the inner critic. But how to counter it? Today's video highlights how to notice and build on your inner kind part.

We have discussed the inner critic. But how to counter it? Todays video highlights how to notice and build on your inner kind part.

The Inner Critic is a fiercely draining part of ourselves. Have you taken a look at what yours is saying recently? How might you respond with a little more kindness?

Self-Compassion Series Tip 4 - Countering your inner perfectionist with a mantra like, "Good enough". Enjoy the extra energy you will have freed up for yourself by letting go of the feeling you need to do everything perfectly.

How else can you build your self-compassion muscle? When we bring mindful awareness to the things we do well, or even just the tasks that we complete that were hard for us - we start to feel slightly better and develop self-trust. This weeks video is a gentle reminder to note the good you do and to encourage yourself by paying a wee bit more attention to it. ... And you can dance if you want to.

Do you recognize that you sometimes self-sabotage? How do we get out of our own way so we can feel more peace, and reach our goals more easily? We are held back from reaching our potential by self-limiting belief systems. Namely, the way our thoughts (such as, "Im not good enough") make us FEEL (guilty, sad, diheartened). ... This video is part of a self-compassion series with tools to support you in creating a kinder inner dialogue. The results of shifting the way we look at our beliefs about ourselves (the ability to question our own thoughts as fact or fiction) is a superpower that helps you to navigate the world with more love and ease, and with less fear and self-sabotage. What is your inner critic like? Name them and feel free to share about them in the comments below!

Boundaries are such an important relationship strengthener. We can dance along with Khadaura while we think about that today! Do you feel this happy setting boundaries in your relationships? Few of us do. It can feel scary, our inner people-pleasers may be fearful about disappointing or angering others. Yet, so much relief can come when we share what is okay and what is not okay in our relationships. As Bren Brown, renowned shame and vulnerability researcher put it, "Boundar...ies are respect." Truth bomb! Enjoy your dance!

This weekly Self-Compassion Series will provide you with a tool to practice being kinder to yourself. And goodness knows, the world needs more kindness - both the internal and external varieties! What are the ways that you talk to yourself (your internally-directed thoughts)? We are often our own worst critic. ... This way of self-relating can drain our energy, and negatively impact our health and other relationships.

Lets talk about the pressure to DO! We can re-frame the way we recharge to enjoy life more and to reduce some of the guilt around "under-achieving"

Pleasure matters. Now you can be socially responsible by getting it on with yourself! What interesting times. In the spirit of spreading the love, enjoy this freebie guide for self-love (designed with women in mind) https://www.relationshipwell.com/couples-and-relationship-c... #selflove #sextherapy #maymasturbationmonth #freebies #enjoylife #pleasure

Let's talk about the pressure to DO! We can re-frame the way we recharge to enjoy life more and to reduce some of the guilt around "under-achieving"

Join me tomorrow morning at 10:30 AM for a live chat about the pressures of performing during COVID.

If you or someone you know and love is considering mental health support, it can be helpful to do your research and find the right fit. There are many kinds of therapy, but here are two types of counselling support to take into consideration.

If you know anyone who might benefit from joining a support group for coping during COVID, feel free to connect them with me!If you know anyone who might benefit from joining a support group for coping during COVID, feel free to connect them with me!

Moving mid-pandemic was quite the adventure. If youd like to hear more about my story and philosophy about coping during these stressful times, Jenny Mitchell is interviewing me on CFRU radio today. Take gentle care yall.

A lot of people are struggling with fatigue and insomnia these days. Here are 4 ways to help manage your exhaustion.

Happy to be featured in the Mental Health Society of Greater Victoria's newsletter! Feeling warmly welcomed to the community, and excited to keep connecting with people here :)

It's okay if you're not happy or okay. During stressful times, unfortunately, people may shame one another for not "looking on the bright side" which is not helpful. It's also important to remember, even during devastating times, you are allowed to feel joy and pleasure and happiness! If you're able, take a look at one thing you're feeling grateful for or happy about in this moment. For me, it's the weather here. Blue, sunny skies make me feel pretty good. ... What about for you? Hope you find some happiness in your day today <3

Happy to be featured in the Mental Health Society of Greater Victorias newsletter! Feeling warmly welcomed to the community, and excited to keep connecting with people here :)

My Coping During COVID Support Group is going well, and continuing to grow each week! Please reach out if you are interested in participating in this free online resource. Hope you are finding some peace in your day.

Its okay if youre not happy or okay. During stressful times, unfortunately, people may shame one another for not "looking on the bright side" which is not helpful. Its also important to remember, even during devastating times, you are allowed to feel joy and pleasure and happiness! If youre able, take a look at one thing youre feeling grateful for or happy about in this moment. For me, its the weather here. Blue, sunny skies make me feel pretty good. ... What about for you? Hope you find some happiness in your day today <3

A 5 minute pick-me-up <3

Blog Two, a blurb by a hyperactive therapist. Please let me know if you have any ADHD or relationship-related questions or topics you want me to discuss in my upcoming posts!

Anyone else getting caught up in the Cult-of-Productivity? This article is a funny reflection on our self-(and societal) expectations. Stress is a hugely energy-sucking force; so why are we feeling so much pressure to GOGOGO and get all the things done? Lets acknowledge how hard this is and stop "shoulding" on ourselves. We dont need to be perfect, we need to be humans feeling our feelings and taking care of ourselves in the best ways we can on any given day. ... On the other hand, sometimes throwing ourselves into work can feel like a nice distraction from the state of the world, and thats okay too. If you are enjoying learning new skills like making loaves of sourdough bread or running an online business, you keep on enjoying that! Its all about balance and harm-reduction with the ways we cope.

6 tips for coping with loneliness during COVID + Free Support Group

For the lonely hearts and weirdly-wired brains out there. Take gentle care and keep connected <3

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Kat Herbinson is a Victoria-based mental health counsellor and founder of Relationship Well Counselling. She specializes in treating individuals and couples with ADHD / ADD and relationship issues. Kat offers sex therapy, couples counselling, LGBTQ+ and alternative relationship support as well as educational resources about love and neurodiversity. Accessible online, through teletherapy (phone) and text support options as well as a sliding scale services for affordable quality care.