Restorative Coaching & Counselling

How can you support your partner when you need support as well? During these unprecedented times, you may find yourself struggling to "hold space" for others le...t alone take care of yourself. Maybe your partner’s needs feel overwhelming as you're working to process your own feelings. Or you may question if you're deserving of support from a hurting partner, or sacrificing your needs in the process. Your hurt could even be because of a negative experience with your partner and a lack of repair. There are no easy answers on how to support your partner when you're hurting, but there are ways to help. Healing starts with focusing on that part of you that cares for the other and giving them the chance to care for you. When we know that our partner cares about us and what we are going through, it becomes easier to show that caring in return. Don Cole, Clinical Director at The Gottman Institute shares how to be there for each other even if you’re both in pain: https://bit.ly/33HUAS8

Dr. John Gottman’s research discovered that a purely equal division of tasks isn’t what matters, but instead that each partner feels like responsibilities are b...alanced. The holidays are a time to come together as a couple and create a sense of balance. Work together to find a solution for this year that satisfies both of your needs. When you have a better idea of who does the "what" and "when," you can start to relieve a great deal of stress. Use this activity to help you both feel understood, determine how you’d like to proceed this year, and compromise when needed so that both of you feel comfortable with your plans. And, of course, modify if necessary. If your partner feels overwhelmed or flooded, see if you can help out by taking on some of their tasks, and remember to support each other. Read more bout how to stress-proof your relationship this holiday season: https://bit.ly/39QqXSo

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