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You can be codependent with one person and secure with another. All in the same day. We don't suddenly flip from "fucked up" to "fixed!!". . . It is possible to exhibit tons of codependent behaviors around your parents, then turn around and have a great, stable partnership. .... . Because some people have scared us deeply for so long. And others showed up for us AND for themselves from day one. . . So it may come as a surprise, but YOU CAN ACTUALLY EMBODY TWO THINGS AT ONCE. And it takes a while to just learn how to see all the patterns around you. This is what it means to be waking up. . . So be patient! Keep pushing yourself but not with all this urgency. You're learning! You've GOT THIS. . . Who brings up your triggers in your life and who makes it easy to quiet them? . . Remember that codependency isn't a personality trait. It's a series of reactions that were always in favour of you feeling your safest. . . Jump in my DMs, say hi and I'll let you know about my 1:1 program offerings if you'd like to spin this codepency narrative around for yourself! . . #riserinserepeat #unearthingyourself #unearthingyourselfprogram #compassionatecare #codependencyrecovery #codependencycoach #codependencyisnotlove #codependent #interdependent #polyamorous #openrelationship #triggers #yougotthis #coachesofig #enneagram1 #enneagramtype1 #enneagram2 #enneagramtype2 #peoplepleaser #fixer #datingadvice #relationshipdynamics #relationshipcoach #codependentrelationship #narcissisticabuse See more

I once heard a woman say that she waited 2 years to tell her husband that she wanted to go for a new job that would end up with the family in a new city. . . Her husband said, "Yeah, you should totally go for it." .... . TWO YEARS OF AGONIZING. For a six-minute, really encouraging interaction. Loooool I bet we've all been there. . . So much of how we act is perfected so that we get through the day with minimal viable wounding. A byproduct? Minimum viable JOY and ALIVENESS. . . Don't suppress your own power to communicate clearly. And don't underestimate that same power within those around you. . . There's not a lot of time in this life we have. Let people see your sovereign self now. How high is the cost to you if you keep living small?? . . DM me to set up a free 30-min call. Let's see how I can best support you through these seemingly impossible relationships dynamics! . . #riserinserepeat #unearthingyourself #unearthingyourselfprogram #coachesofig #codependencycoach #codependencyrecovery #codependencyisnotlove #abandonmentissues #fearofabandonment #abandonment #fearfulavoidant #dismissiveavoidant #attunement #attachmentstyles #enneagram5 #enneagram1 #enneagram2 #enneagram9 #peacekeeper #fixer #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasernomore #emotionalheavylifting #somatichealing #emotionalawarness See more

you don't always have to give advice! . . Are you a chronic "fixer"? Does someone opening their mouth to tell you about their day automatically put you into "let me give 'em some input" mode? .... . We coaches are especially guilty of this OFTEN. Absolutely self included! So what do we do about it? . . Please take a quick breath. Feel yourself just here, floor under your feet, in the presence of another person and your own body. . . It's okay to let someone tell you about their joy and their discomfort...and then just say "thanks for telling me about that" at the end. . . Wait until your input is asked for. It's heard and respected that way. . . Trust that they've got this. Others are strong like you. They can bear this weight too. Teach them that message by NOT repeatedly confirming their belief that YOU are their automatic comfort object. . . And most importantly...turn the mirror towards yourself. Where do you not trust yourself to manage your own discomfort? Why is this discomfort coming up in you? . . Can you breathe there too? . . #riserinserepeat #unearthingyourself #unearthingyourselfprogram #boundariesarelove #boundariesarehealthy #fixer #chronicfixer #peoplepleaser #peoplepleasernomore #caretaker #selfneglect #enneagram2 #enneagramtype2 #anxiousattachment #attachmentstyles #somatichealing #somaticrelating #bodylanguage #relationshipdynamics #relationshipcoach #codependencyrecovery #codependentnomore #codependenttointerdependent #innerchildhealing #selfparenting #selftrust See more

You're staying mad because it's more comfortable. . . Those shower rants, where you really put 'em in their place in the company of your shampoo bottles, that's been your iceberg of protection for so long. .... . Well, hello, it's me, your friendly neighbourhood call-outer. Perhaps like you, I enjoy employing anger, frustration and guilt-trips to help protect me...from my tears. . . Because it's easier to be angry at people than to grieve the fact that you tried to love them, that you gave so much effort and so much of your heart, and that it wasn't seen. . . So next time you're surrounded by your shampoo bottle audience, let your anger iceberg melt a bit. Then feel the difference in HOW the relationships you were upset about hit you now. . . Can you see how EVERYONE involved, especially yourself, was actually just trying to get some love? . . It's never about just ONE person being at fault, after all. It's about the fact that you got hurt WITH them, in the dynamic that you co-created. . . We gotta grieve our best relationship efforts if we expect ourselves to have energy to keep trying for new, healthier dynamics. . . So I wonder if you can let yourself grieve the love you tried to give. You're a softer bean than you may realize - a soft bean who can do all the hard things!! See more

Ever feel like you're spitting out a rehearsed phrase when you're setting a boundary, and someone's gonna be able to sense your fakeness?? . . I like to make boundaries a cozy thing, like a practice that reinforces, for you and you alone, that you have a certain set of values that you live by. .... . For me a boundary describes experiences I love: . "I want to have a respectful conversation with you when we're both calm. I always walk away from raised voices." Mmm, that's nice. It points your mind towards that soothing scenario of calm. . . "I value peaceful conversations, so I'm not going to keep engaging in this topic right now." They tell people about you and the things you're after. . . Now, whether or not that person agrees, chooses to calm down, or whatever, is their business. That's not in your control. . . So make a list about the things you LOVE about relationships you've got, or relationships you're striving for. . . I love active listening. . I love when you give me eye contact. . I love when I feel like there's space for us to have totally different opinions. . . Let me know if you've ever tried doling out a boundary in a way that reminds you of what you DO like in this world, and if you try it, let me know if it FEEELS cozier for you! See more