Ruth Bergen Braun Counsellor

#adhd #ADHDAwarenessMonth

When I use this model I call the A "the Activating Event" (that is, what got you upset). Most people believe that it's the event that caused their distress when in actual fact, it's what we believe about that event that gets us upset.

I'm not sure how to get the word out about this but please, therapist friends, share with anyone you think may be interested.

I need to take this advice myself!

My grandmother once gave me a tip: In difficult times, you move forward in small steps. Do what you have to do, but little by little. Don't think about the futu...re, or what may happen tomorrow. Wash the dishes. Remove the dust. Write a letter. Make a soup. You see? You are advancing step by step. Take a step and stop. Rest a little. Praise yourself. Take another step. Then another. You won't notice, but your steps will grow more and more. And the time will come when you can think about the future without crying. - Elena Mikhalkova (Image of Tasha Tudor, American Illustrator 1915-2008)

We reify and idealize the harmony phase and give little to no credence to the rest of it. But the reality is journeying through disillusionment and disappointment into mature love and repair is what makes for true intimacy