Sarah Trivett

From the Ecosexual's Manifesto by Annie Sprinkles & Elizabeth Stevens "We shamelessly hug trees, massage the earth with our feet, and talk erotically to plants. We are skinny dippers, sun worshippers, and stargazers. We caress rocks, are pleasured by waterfalls, and admire the Earth’s curves. We make love with the Earth through our senses." via @paul.perret... #ecosexuality #earth #pleasure See more

Why not take 15 minutes this Sunday to empower your sexual self? https://sarahtrivett.com/a-simple-ritual-for-re-authoring-/

Read on to learn about my take on the degrees, certifications and studies I've undertaken! https://sarahtrivett.com/mytraining/

COUPLING DYNAMICS + SEX Coupling happens when two normally unrelated things occur together with enough frequency or intensity that the nervous system binds them together. Examples of couplings:... Fear + Arousal Contraction + Orgasm Shame + Nakedness Rejection + Self Harm Intimacy + Terror So, how do we work with this? 1) Become Aware of the Coupling In order to uncouple a coupling dynamic we first have to notice that it exists. To become more aware of what may be coupled in your nervous system, you can journal around thoughts, feelings and emotions come up for you when you consider self-pleasure intimacy or sex! 2) Un-couple with compassion. Shame and judgement tend to keep old couplings in place. Attending to these couplings with kind, compassionate awareness works to loosen them over time. 3) Re-Couple Consider what new coupling dynamic you would like to have in place of the old ones. Maybe you would prefer to re-couple Pleasure + Arousal Relaxation + Orgasm Vulnerability + Nakedness Self Compassion + Rejection Intimacy + Trust 3) Practice, Practice, Practice! Recoupling doesn't happen all at once. Overtime, when you bring consistent compassionate attention to the old coupling dynamics, they will start to lose their grip. When Orgasm shows up alongside Contraction you can say to yourself "These two have been coupled together for some time. I'm holding this with compassion, and I'm going to explore bringing in some relaxation now" #coupling #sexualhealing #rewire #nervousystem Photo of The Full Blue Moon on Samhain by @ghixxoutdoors See more

CONSENT + BOUNDARIES Saying 'yes' starts with saying 'no'. We can only ever say a real and meaningful 'yes' to something if we trust that we could say 'no' to that thing and that our 'no' would be respected.... If we feel that our 'no' will be met with coercion, judgement or manipulation, we can't give a true 'yes' and there is no real consent. There's a lot of talk in the world of sexual healing about finding and making lists of our likes, turn ons, and the things that accelerate our passion and desire. While this can be helpful, I've found that oftentimes our sense of what is a true 'yes' for us doesn't really come online until we've had ample opportunity to say 'no' and have it be truly respected. If growing up there wasn't much space given for your authentic self-expression, and you were expected to conform to the norms of your family, finding your 'no' can be tricky. Especially if you were taught that anger wasn't an acceptable emotion, finding and claiming your boundaries might involve embracing your anger and letting it teach you what 'no' feels like. Not sure what you like? Not sure what turns you on? Not sure where you desire and turn on went? Try saying 'No!" When the body trusts the sacredness of the 'No', real authentic ‘yeses', desires and true embodied consent become more available. #no #yes #consent #boundaries #traumarecovery See more