Seva Counselling
#208 478 Bernard Avenue V1Y 6N7 Kelowna, BC, Canada

Relationship and Marriage Counselling Relationship and marriage counselling is for individuals and couples who need to make changes in their present situation. Distress may be caused by difficulties in communication, growing conflict, difficulty with acknowledging or expressing feelings, sexual problems or a range of other factors. This work can help you understand and come to terms with the challenges you are facing in your relationship and help you to work towards your own... solutions. Counselling is a positive first step in rebuilding your relationship. Conflict over differences. Relationships and the process dynamics at work in them are very intricate and complicated. There are many layers to each as each person brings their unique histories, values, needs and ideas about what relationships should look like and their own experiences in them. Most of the time these individual realities do not match their partners. These differences do not mean that you are not meant for each other. What they mean is that the relationship may require building strengths in areas that allow it to be a safe place for those difference to be understood and to coexist. When partners do not find ways for this to happen it can cause gradual disintegration of communication, destructive defensive positions and eventually, as a coping response, withdrawal and even checking out of the relationship (by at least one of the partners). SEVA Counselling is home to a team of counselling therapists serving clients in Kelowna and the surrounding area. We invite you to call us for information about relationship counselling. Phone: 250-300-0030 or visit us online at http://sevacounselling.com/kelowna-counsell/couples-therapy

COVID-19 Service Supports We recognize that we all face uncertain times. Additionally, the requirement for social distancing has placed some limitations on accessing our natural support network. Even in the face of these challenges though we have the ability to turn challenge into opportunity. Time away from work and life's responsiblities can be used to gather those close to us, focus on supporting each other and deepening our relationships. This time away can be used as an ...opportunity to create deeper connections, carry out self growth and address concerns or challenges we may not have had the time too while engaged in the treadmill of life. In order to support clients through this challenging time and to help turn challenge into opportunity, Seva Counselling has implemented a number of service supports: In addition to continuing to deliver in person services, we are providing optional video and telephone counselling services. (Various formats are available for video counselling) We have extended our service hours to accommodate family responsibilities. We are offering discounted rate packages to those without employment or benefits coverage.

A perfect parent is one who is a good enough parent Any parent will tell you that parenting is the most humbling experience one can encounter. Every parent is always in the place of questioning themselves; if they are doing the right thing. According to attachment perspective, the good news is we do not have to be constantly on top of our game. It is actually healthy to fail sometimes. It is ok to drop the ball. Attachment research suggests that nature is quite forgiving a...nd we do not have to be supermoms and superdads to raise secure children. In fact, it is important as perfect attunement can decrease the range of what a child can tolerate and can interfere with the development of healthy coping strategies. You also do not want chronic misattunement as children then can’t develop emotional regulation. Moderate levels of both are considered beneficial for healthy development. There is invitation in this to give not just our children, but also ourselves, compassion and latitude for our humanity. See more

Independence vs dependence In the contest of the love relationship, some partners expect the support of their partner or them being there in times of need. That gives them a sense of security. When partner is unable to do it to the degree needed it is perceived as lack of care. Others on another hand expect self-reliance as this what attracts them to their partner. Any dependence is perceived as lack of confidence or as neediness. The question is, who is right or where d...o we draw a healthy line? To figure that out, it is good to see the very ends of the continuum of unhealthy dependence or independence. What are they? Both of them are based on extreme fear. Fear of venturing out as we do not believe in our own capacity, usually based on the truth of self, that we are lacking/ incapable. On another end of the continuum, fear of relying on others altogether as we adopted the truth that they will not follow through, so we develop fear based independence. From an attachment perspective, a healthy middle is that we truly feel independent when we know that someone has our back in a real way. We feel secure to venture into the world as this someone is not only our place of support from which we dance into the world but also a safe place to land when things are tough. So in order to move to the middle we need to create corrective experiences that would challenge old truths we adopted: take risks and venture out or ask for support so we learn that we are capable of doing things on our own and ask for support even if it feels too scary because we expect let downs. See more

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SEVA is home to a team of counselling therapists serving clients in Kelowna and the surrounding area.

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