SMART Recovery Family & Friends Calgary

Here's a guide for setting healthy boundaries so that you can maintain your sanity! 1. Value yourself and your time. You're important and deserve to be treated ...well. If the people around you don't appreciate and respect you, family or otherwise, ask yourself whether you actually want to spend time with them, and how much. You get to choose what you do, with whom, and when. spent time with people who adored and valued you? 2. Give yourself permission to do what's best for you. Cultural norms suggest that you're supposed to spend holidays with family and that if you don't, something is "wrong" with you. Ahhh, the joys of stigma! What if yours is a toxic family system, familial relationships are abusive, and your relatives hurt you? At the end of the day, YOU are your biggest advocate and supporter. It's important to have healthy boundaries, even (especially!) during the holidays, regardless of whether or not others understand and accept them. Limiting time with toxic people is an act of self-love. No shame in this game. 3. Know your triggers and anticipate them. A "trigger" is a difficult situation or event. We all have them and they're different for each of us. . Always be one step ahead of your triggers by knowing: a) what they are, b) the emotions that arise, c) how you can best take care of yourself and d) how you plan to respond. 4. Be clear about your needs and communicate them. Identify your needs and boundaries in advance. 5. Practice saying no. I have a client who, as a people-pleaser and someone who deeply loves his family, finds it hard to say no. He notes that not all "no"s are the same, however: "soft nos" are easier for him than "hard nos." A "soft no" is mushy, leaving room for a potential "yes" in the future: Maybe later, I have to check my calendar, I'm tired right now but ask me in an hour. "Hard nos" are firm and finite: Sorry, I already have plans. 6. Make a list of coping strategies. Whether you feel all alone or your complicated family sends you into a murderous rage, the holidays can be challenging.

Are people in your life behaving in ways that are causing you distress ? Causing you harm? Are you tired of not knowing what to say or how to say it? Come join us tomorrow night - On Zoom (7-8:30). Where we will be covering Section 7 of the Family and Friends handbook - to learn how to identify healthy boundaries and communicate them effectively. Self-empowering knowledge ... Don’t miss out We're using Zoom with our online meetings, you do not need an account or password: Tuesday - Family and Friends 7-8:30pm https://smartrecovery.zoom.us/j/640595500 To Call in to any meeting: +1 647 558 0588 Canada +1 778 907 2071 Canada +1 438 809 7799 Canada +1 587 328 1099 Canada +1 647 374 4685 Canada Meeting ID: The 9 numbers at the end of the web address.

Would you rather NOT become upset, frustrated, angry, or anxious In response to someone else’s actions? Join us this evening - on zoom (7-8:30) where we will be covering Section 5 of the Family & Friends Handbook - Beliefs & Disputations - we will be teaching and discussing more on the ABC tool and how it can help us regain emotional control. We will also be identifying and disputing our unhelpful thinking patterns to ensure our own ability to stay calm in stressful situatio...ns. Self-empowering knowledge Don’t miss out We're using Zoom with our online meetings, you do not need an account or password: Tuesday - Family and Friends 7-8:30pm https://smartrecovery.zoom.us/j/640595500 To Call in to any meeting: +1 647 558 0588 Canada +1 778 907 2071 Canada +1 438 809 7799 Canada +1 587 328 1099 Canada +1 647 374 4685 Canada Meeting ID: The 9 numbers at the end of the web address.

Are you frequently upset, frustrated, angry, sleepless, anxious, feeling hopeless or helpless? Join us tomorrow evening - on zoom (7-8:30) where we will be covering Section #4 of the Family & Friends Handbook - and teaching an effective tool that can help you regain emotional control. Self-empowering knowledge ... Don’t miss out We're using Zoom with our online meetings, you do not need an account or password: Tuesday - Family and Friends 7-8:30pm https://smartrecovery.zoom.us/j/640595500 To Call in to any meeting: +1 647 558 0588 Canada +1 778 907 2071 Canada +1 438 809 7799 Canada +1 587 328 1099 Canada +1 647 374 4685 Canada Meeting ID: The 9 numbers at the end of the web address.

The next Boundary Workshop is on Saturday October 3 from 7 - 8 pm. You can email Mandy at [email protected] to let her know you're attending. https://smartrecovery.zoom.us/j/640595500

Do you have a hard time keeping your cool in certain situations? Why is that and what can you do about it? We will go over some SMART tools that can help to de-escalate our level of upset so that we can interact more calmly with our loved ones. What are self-defeating beliefs and thoughts? We will show you how we can change them to self-empowering. ... Join us tomorrow evening - on Zoom - 7-8:30 where we will be covering Section 3 of the Family & Friends Handbook - inner dialogue. Self-empowering knowledge Don’t miss out We're using Zoom with our online meetings, you do not need an account or password: Tuesday - Family and Friends 7-8:30pm https://smartrecovery.zoom.us/j/640595500 To Call in to any meeting: +1 647 558 0588 Canada +1 778 907 2071 Canada +1 438 809 7799 Canada +1 587 328 1099 Canada +1 647 374 4685 Canada Meeting ID: The 9 numbers at the end of the web address. We're using Zoom with our online meetings, you do not need an account or password: Tuesday - Family and Friends 7-8:30pm https://smartrecovery.zoom.us/j/640595500 To Call in to any meeting: +1 647 558 0588 Canada +1 778 907 2071 Canada +1 438 809 7799 Canada +1 587 328 1099 Canada +1 647 374 4685 Canada Meeting ID: The 9 numbers at the end of the web address.

Are the people and situations in your life consuming your life? Does it seem like the central focus of your life is your loved ones addiction? We can help.. Join us tomorrow evening - on Zoom - 7-8:30 where we will be covering Section 2 in the Family & Friends Handbook - Self-care and Self-rewards. Self-empowering knowledge ... Don’t miss out We're using Zoom with our online meetings, you do not need an account or password: Tuesday - Family and Friends 7-8:30pm https://smartrecovery.zoom.us/j/640595500 To Call in to any meeting: +1 647 558 0588 Canada +1 778 907 2071 Canada +1 438 809 7799 Canada +1 587 328 1099 Canada +1 647 374 4685 Canada Meeting ID: The 9 numbers at the end of the web address.

Tried everything? And nothing is working? We are gonna talk about how to make some changes that will help. Learn about the change process and how to use the CBA tool in weighing the pros and cons of change to help create the intrinsic motivation needed for real change. Come join us tomorrow evening - On zoom (7-8:30) where we will be covering Section 1 of the Family & Friends Handbook - Change & Motivation. Self-empowering knowledge ... Don’t miss out We're using Zoom with our online meetings, you do not need an account or password: Tuesday - Family and Friends 7-8:30pm https://smartrecovery.zoom.us/j/640595500 To Call in to any meeting: +1 647 558 0588 Canada +1 778 907 2071 Canada +1 438 809 7799 Canada +1 587 328 1099 Canada +1 647 374 4685 Canada Meeting ID: The 9 numbers at the end of the web address.

Good day Everyone! Come join us this evening - on zoom (7-8:30) where we will be covering Section 14 of the Family & Friends Handbook - Discover the Power of Choice. Where we will be discussing where you are in the change process and how you are progressing with the tools we have covered so far. ... Resolving fear and a friendly reminder that YOU DESERVE to be happy! Self-empowering knowledge Don’t miss out We're using Zoom with our online meetings, you do not need an account or password: Tuesday - Family and Friends 7-8:30pm https://smartrecovery.zoom.us/j/640595500 To Call in to any meeting: +1 647 558 0588 Canada +1 778 907 2071 Canada +1 438 809 7799 Canada +1 587 328 1099 Canada +1 647 374 4685 Canada Meeting ID: The 9 numbers at the end of the web address.

Taking the focus off of your loved one and setting goals for your own life will help provide necessary balance. Come join us tomorrow evening - on zoom (7-8:30) where we will be covering Section 13 of the Family & Friends Handbook - Setting Smart Goals. Where we will learn how to turn our focus back into ourselves and our lives. Self-care = Self-love. ... Self-empowering knowledge Don’t miss out We're using Zoom with our online meetings, you do not need an account or password: Tuesday - Family and Friends 7-8:30pm https://smartrecovery.zoom.us/j/640595500 To Call in to any meeting: +1 647 558 0588 Canada +1 778 907 2071 Canada +1 438 809 7799 Canada +1 587 328 1099 Canada +1 647 374 4685 Canada Meeting ID: The 9 numbers at the end of the web address.