Spirit Moon Healing
9804 100 ave #203 Grande Prairie, AB, Canada

This. Hits. Hard. The inability to receive support from others is a trauma response. Your I don’t need anyone, I’ll just do it all myself conditioning i...s a survival tactic. And you needed it to shield your heart from abuse, neglect, betrayal, and disappointment from those who could not or would not be there for you. From the parent who was absent and abandoned you by choice or the parent who was never home from working three jobs to feed and house you. From the lovers who offered sexual intimacy but never offered a safe haven that honored your heart. From the friendships and family who ALWAYS took more than they ever gave. From all the situations when someone told you we’re in this together or I got you then abandoned you, leaving you to pick up the pieces when shit got real, leaving you to handle your part and their part, too. From all the lies and all the betrayals. You learned along the way that you just couldn’t really trust people. Or that you could trust people, but only up to a certain point. Extreme-independence IS. A. TRUST. ISSUE. You learnt: if I don’t put myself in a situation where I rely on someone, I won’t have to be disappointed when they don’t show up for me, or when they drop the ball... because they will ALWAYS drop the ball EVENTUALLY right? You may even have been intentionally taught this protection strategy by generations of hurt ancestors who came before you. Extreme-independence is a preemptive strike against heartbreak. So, you don’t trust anyone. And you don’t trust yourself, either, to choose people. To trust is to hope, to trust is to be vulnerable. Never again, you vow. But no matter how you dress it up and display it proudly to make it seem like this level of independence is what you always wanted to be, in truth it’s your wounded, scarred, broken heart behind a protective brick wall. Impenetrable. Nothing gets in. No hurt gets in. But no love gets in either. Fortresses and armor are for those in battle, or who believe the battle is coming. It’s a trauma response. The good news is trauma that is acknowledged is trauma that can be healed. You are worthy of having support. You are worthy of having true partnership. You are worthy of love. You are worthy of having your heart held. You are worthy to be adored. You are worthy to be cherished. You are worthy to have someone say, You rest. I got this. And actually deliver on that promise. You are worthy to receive. You are worthy to receive. You are worthy. You don’t have to earn it. You don’t have to prove it. You don’t have to bargain for it. You don’t have to beg for it. You are worthy. Worthy. Simply because you exist. -Jamila White, @inspiredjamila

I posted this a couple of days ago and it disappeared, so here it is again because THIS is so important and is how I have lived for the past 3 years From Anthon...y Hopkins: ''Let go of people who aren't ready to love you yet! This is the hardest thing you'll have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing: stop giving your love to those who aren't ready to love you yet. Stop hard conversations with people who don't want to change. Stop showing up for people who are indifferent to your presence. Stop loving people who aren't ready to love you. I know your instincts do everything to win the good mercy of everyone around you, but it's also the impulse that will steal your time, energy and mental, physical and spiritual health. When you start manifesting yourself in your life, completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to find you in this place of pure sincerity. That doesn't mean that you have to change who you are. That means you have to stop loving people who don't want to love you yet. When you are excluded, subtly offended, forgotten or easily ignored by people you give time to, you don't do yourself any favour by allowing them your energy and your life. The truth is that you're not for everyone... And that not everyone is for you... That makes this world so special, when you find the few people you have friendship, love or a true relationship with... You will know how valuable that is... Because you have experienced what isn't... But the more time you spend trying to make you loved by someone who cant... The more time you waste depriving the same connection... There are billions of people on this planet, and many of them will end up with you, on their level, with their vibration, from where they stand... But... The smaller you stay, involved in the privacy of people who use you as a pillow, background option, a therapist and a strategy for their emotional healing... More time you stay out of the community you wish for. If you stop showing up, you might be less wanted... If you stop trying, the relationship might stop... If you stop texting, your phone stays dark for days and weeks... Maybe if you stop loving someone, the love between you will dissolve... That doesn't mean you ruined a relationship! That means all this relationship had was the energy that only you and you hire to keep it in the air. It's not love. That's attachment. That's wanting to give a chance to those who don't want it! The most valuable and most important thing you have in your life is your energy. Its not just your time because it's limited... It's your energy! What you give every day is what will become more and more in your life. It's the ones you give time and energy that will define your existence. When you realize this, you start to understand why you are so impatient when you spend your time with people that don't suit you, and in activities, places, situations that don't suit you. You're starting to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and for everyone you know, protect your energy stronger than anything. Turn your life into a safe sanctuary where only '' compatible '' people with you are allowed. You are not responsible for saving people. You are not responsible to convince them to be saved. It's not your job to exist for people and give them your life, little by little, moment after the moment! Because if you feel bad or if you feel obliged; you are the root of all of this by your insisting, afraid they promise you the favors you won't give them... It's your only fact to realize that you are the loved one of your destiny and to accept the love you think you deserve. Decide you deserve a true friendship. Wait then... just a minute... And look how everything is starting to change..." Anthony Hopkins

Everyone needs to do this!!

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