Twyla Clarke

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"Sometimes you gotta open the wound in order to clean it" -Brooke Brae Truth! Your wounds will continue being wounds if you ignore them. ... If you don't get out that rubbing alcohol to clean your physical wounds, they become infected and will never heal properly. This is the exact same concept for your emotional wounds. The longer you leave them unhealed the more they will affect you. You have to take a look at them, see what's going on and begin to do the healing work. This is where it all starts. And sometimes that can be the most scary part because we never want to look at what's really going on. We'd rather continue to sweep it under the rug or put it all behind us. Ignorance can be bliss... Until it isn't! Looking back or under that rug can be terrifying. It can truly be like Pandora's box (as one of my client's refers to it as). And the idea and concept can keep us stuck rather than empowered to move forward confidently. Feeling like we can do it! And sometimes going it alone is what you need to do. Because you really can do it by yourself but then there are those times that the wounds can be overwhelming and too painful to bare alone. And that's when you reach out and ask for support. It doesn't make sense trying to do it by yourself causing and inflicting more pain and harm in yourself. Ask for help there's no shame in that. I have spaces open next week for those who are feeling overwhelmed, scared or that their wounds are still too painful to bare alone. Pm me if you would like to know more.

One truth about Healers and the Healers I work with is that they're often dealing with the most hurt and pain. They've become accustom and used to betrayal. They've become used to the hurt and pain that they feel. ... Because they give of themselves so freely, so lovingly, so genuinely, so authentically, they're often used. They're often taken advantage of. They're often betrayed. They're often left picking up pieces while still needing to cater to others. And this most often comes from amd happens within their own family dynamic. You see people who are or fall into the Healer archetype often give of themselves to the point of depletion. But worse than that is they give of themselves in a way they truly believe people would give of themselves as well. But the truth is their energy irrefutable, it can't be matched. It can't be compared. It's incomparable. One of the exercises I often work on is going through a list of things that many people, but especially Healers struggle with. And that list is Settling, Tolerating, Compromising, Justifying and Avoiding. If you take a look at your life and these 5 key areas it can often be the guidepost you need to understand how you've given away yourself continuously day by day, year by year. Because not everyone deserves you. Twyla

This dime came up in my memories from 2 years ago and I still stand by what I said then ! Let's talk about Obligatory Sex. Now many people may not believe this to be a thing or read the line above and be like what?! ... But this is an absolute thing! Obligatory sex is when a woman (or man) has sex with someone out of obligation. This typically occurs in long term relationships/marriage. Firstly this is sexual trauma and it shows up energetically as rape. Whether a woman is going along with it for the sake of going along with it, trying to please her partner, or afraid of repercussions it's still trauma and is considered rape of her body. This happens because her yes isn't a true yes. And her body will respond/shut down as a reflection of this. This is something I don't talk about enough, but I've worked with enough women as a healer to recognize it immediately. These things lead to all types of emotional, physical, and mental issues as it is abuse. It shuts down our ability to feel, our ability to cope, our ability to be present. And shows up as womb wounds in the physical body. Infertility, UTI and irregular periods are symptoms to name just a few. There are of course ways to heal this but the first step is to always first be aware of the harm you're causing yourself.

A couple years ago I wrote a post about the woman secretly crying at night that I shared yesterday. In today’s current climate there’s so many women going to bed at night with tears they can’t seem to stop from hitting the pillow. But they keep holding on and keeping it together, because you know that’s what they’re supposed to do. That’s who they’re supposed to be. The strong ones. The Superwoman.... We are after all the glue. So we hold it down, stay strong, put on a brave face, and face the world day in and day out. Because the truth is, women have been conditioned to be strong and save face in front of the world. Even when everything is crashing around them, you dare not let anyone know for a moment that you don’t have it all together. But this isn’t helping anyone and it most definitely isn’t helping you. The mask you wear that you’ve been conditioned to put on can’t last forever. You know the one you’ve been using to fool everyone. Well I’m here to tell you it can’t fool everyone forever. Because there comes a point when one will break. When one will fold. When one will bite the dust as they say. Because how long can one truly fake it? My purpose is to support you before you reach the point of breaking. Before you reach rock bottom. Before you are holding on by the strands of faith and hope that you have left. You are always giving to everyone, it’s now time to give to yourself. Because you deserve it too, Boo. Photo by Kat Jayne from Pexels

Are you secretly crying at night? The house is quiet. The kids have gone to bed. The man lies beside you fast asleep and you just can't anymore. All of a sudden your eyes start filling. You try to compose yourself so you don't wake him. Part of you wants him to hear you. The other part believes be wouldn't care anyway. ... The tears are filling faster than you can stop them. As the tears soak your pillow you think how can this stop. You just want to stop the pain. Stop the pain of the numbness inside of you. Stop the pain of the overwhelm. But you can't and the tears continue. It's become too much to keep sweeping it under the rug, it's there, you can feel it but you don't know what to do. The YouTube videos, Ted Talks, and google searches aren't helping. They aren't helping you cope or manage better. You want to run away, run away and hide but you can't. You can't bring yourself to do it. Deep inside you are craving support. But you have trained yourself not to ask. You resent the fact no one is seeing through your mask. But you wouldn't dare be weak and admit that you wear one. You need the freedom and a safe place to open up . What you need is someone who can pull out the parts that hurt and help you deal with them. Help you heal from the heartache you feel inside. Help to minimize the pain that comes up in spurts. You are not alone. You can get help. You can receive support. You deserve it. You deserve to know what happiness feels like. It's not elusive. You just don't know that. Let me help you. Let me be the life raft you've been praying for. I know how to get you from where you are to where you want to be. I understand the vision you see and want so badly. This is your time to be taken care of. This is your time to be a priority. This is your time to be fully supported. Afterall you've done it for everyone else. Don't you think you deserve it too?