Mike Mathers
1122 Mainland St V6B 5L1 Vancouver, BC, Canada

Distress tolerance and coping skills can be a useful way to manage difficult moments in life that you can’t escape from or fix. These skills won’t necessarily ...make you feel better, or make the stress go away. There will always be times when nothing will make you feel fully better. Instead, by using these skills, you can keep yourself from ruminating, getting worked up, and making an already difficult situation even harder. Read more at: https://cmcffc.org//how-to-manage-stress-during-a-big-life See more

Pain X Resistance = Suffering. Agree/disagree?

There’s a two step process to emotional healing. Step 1 Pay attention to all of the ways that you struggle to love or accept yourself. Each time you catch yourself being unable to love yourself take a deep breath long exhale then just be curious why you can’t. The answer doesn’t matter. Step 2 repeat step one for the rest of your life. ... It gets easier with practice as people get hung up on the self compassion thing but everyone understands how to be curious about their own self-loathing. Start with curiosity and practice it in the moment of self loathing then repeat that a few hundred times and I promise you will find your way to self-compassion. Spread love you got this

Amid rising hostility toward drug users in Vancouver, Gabor Maté urges empathy | CBC News #addiction #recovery #compassion #heals

Down with the tyranny of relentless positivity! Check out Susan David's book "Emotional Agility" to learn more.

Not why the addiction but why the pain.

I was excited to chat with Mark Hyman, MD on The Doctor’s Farmacy about emotional agility and skills for dealing with the real world from an open and honest place, without running from the feelings that we don’t like. Listen here: http://ed.gr/cs10a

Words to live by #emotionalagility #susandavid

Share this with the friends and family of people engaging in problematic substance use. #addiction #CRAFT #SubstanceUseDisorders #treatment #recoveryispossible

Many people are drinking more these days. Perhaps #harmreduction is a way to help you get that drinking under control. Gabrielle Glaser looks into it in this article. https://filtermag.org/alcohol-drinking-harm-reduction/

If I accepted myself just as I am, I’d lose all motivation to strive towards my goals. I need my inner critic to become my best self and develop my full potent...ial. Many people reject the idea of accepting and loving themselves as they are right now because they’re afraid of losing their inner drive and motivation to change. However, as Carl Rogers poignantly writes in his book ‘On Becoming a Person’: "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I change." But why is that so? One of the main reasons is that (contrary to popular belief) our inner critic is a pretty bad motivator. In fact, research has shown that constant self-criticism is linked to anxiety, depression, fear of failure, and a low sense of self-efficacy (i.e. the belief that your actions have an impact and that you're capable of reaching a specific goal). That’s also why chronic self-critics often engage in so-called self-handicapping behaviors, are master procrastinators, and often try to cover up their mistakes. In contrast, when we're self-accepting, we're better able to embrace all facets of ourselves and can recognize both our strengths and weaknesses without judgment. This enables us to acknowledge our limitations and take responsibility for our mistakes. Moreover, since they don’t threaten our inherent self-worth, we’re less afraid of failures and frame them as opportunities to learn and grow. Finally, instead of wallowing in self-pity, shame, and frustration when things go wrong, we bounce back from setbacks more quickly and focus on new opportunities in the future. What are your experiences with self-acceptance vs. self-judgment? How do they impact your motivation, performance, and wellbeing? Let me know in the comments below . . . . . Thanks so much for joining me until here, I really appreciate your time. If you have any feedback, questions, or comments, I’d love to hear from you and have a chat www.ppinaction.com FB: PPIA Positive Psychology in Action IG: ppiascienceofhappiness YouTube: PPIA Science of Happiness Have a lovely day Sonja xx

Soul care part 2. @ Xenia on Bowen Island

Soul care @xeniacentre

Whereever there is pain there is a blocked value. If you flip pain over you can identify the unmet need and be more likely to take effective action towards meeting that need.

If we had a trauma informed society we would have a society that looks much more compassionate -Gabor Mate https://youtu.be/70HNmSsJvVU