Woods Psychological Services

When we extend too much wriggle room for the coloniser to pre-determine granular like thought into ideation. "Emotions shape the landscape of our mental and s...ocial lives. Like geological upheavals in a landscape, they mark our lives as uneven, uncertain, and prone to reversal. Are they simply, as some have claimed, animal energies or impulses with no connection to our thoughts? Or are they rather suffused with intelligence and discernment, and thus a source of deep awareness and understanding? If the latter, the emotions cannot be sidelined in accounts of ethical judgment, as they often have been in the history of philosophy. They must then form part of our system of ethical reasoning, and we must be prepared to grapple with the messy material of grief and love, anger and fear, and in so doing to learn what role these tumultuous experiences play in our thinking about the good and the just" Nussbaum Upheavals of Thought See more

Ties in nicely with AEDP and the Change Triangle.

How can you support your partner when you need support as well? During these unprecedented times, you may find yourself struggling to "hold space" for others le...t alone take care of yourself. Maybe your partner’s needs feel overwhelming as you're working to process your own feelings. Or you may question if you're deserving of support from a hurting partner, or sacrificing your needs in the process. Your hurt could even be because of a negative experience with your partner and a lack of repair. There are no easy answers on how to support your partner when you're hurting, but there are ways to help. Healing starts with focusing on that part of you that cares for the other and giving them the chance to care for you. When we know that our partner cares about us and what we are going through, it becomes easier to show that caring in return. Don Cole, Clinical Director at The Gottman Institute shares how to be there for each other even if you’re both in pain: https://bit.ly/33HUAS8

"When we take responsibility for words or actions that have caused distress, we are opening the door to changes we need to make in order to be our best selves. ...Defensiveness keeps the door slammed shut. Defensiveness is another way of saying, 'I’m perfect as I am, therefore I don’t need to grow or change in any way.' This attitude leads to personal stagnation. It also leads to loneliness, as most others don’t consider themselves to be perfect, and therefore, can’t relate to you or connect with you. When we take responsibility, there is an audible sigh from those around us, as if they are saying, Oh good, it’s okay that we are not perfect too [now] we can all relax together in our own human imperfection! Drs. John and Julie Gottman dive into the Antidote for Defensiveness in the new Gottman Relationship Coach: How to Make Your Relationship Work. Shop now: https://bit.ly/2IT2YHi

Maintaining trust is one of the building blocks for success in a committed relationship. If broken, it can be rebuilt if both parties are willing to put in the... work. The Gottman Institute, gurus of couples research, developed this acronym as a reference for how to have trust. May you find wisdom in the attune acronym. See more