Jen Klein

InnerGuidance uses specific tools to help us rehabilitate and discern our true NO from our false NO. One way is to intentionally invite in the body as a tracking system with specific exercises in order to discover the answer to a very important question: How does it feel in my body when I speak my true NO versus my false NO?... With this initial awareness you can then learn how to track the feedback: What am I saying NO to and why? What is my pattern with NO? Why does it take me so long (e.g. when I’m in pain or suffering) to finally say NO? What (core belief, story etc.) is stopping me from saying NO before I reach this point of suffering? Why is this discovery around NO important in all stages? To live an aligned life, requires the capacity to set a clear and firm boundary with a true NO. This requires the ability to stand in your truth and claim your true NO without the need to justify or feel guilty. To live an aligned life also requires the willingness to be curious around your NO. For example, within the family dynamics there is an opportunity to work as a team to support each other in our aligned requests and to help each other meet our needs. There may be a request from a member for help in meeting a specific need that we can’t completely meet themselves. In this case, if I say NO to the request, I can: LEARN TO GET CURIOUS: Is there room for conscious, honest and transparent negotiation? If so, what do I need from the other, if anything, to say YES to their request (whether it’s working a professional or personal relationship)? Do I need more information? Do I need more time? Do I need more trust? Or is this simply a non negotiable NO? The more clarity you have around what a true NO means and feels like in the body for YOU, the less confusion you create in all of your relationships. Would that be OK...to live an aligned life?! #innerguidance #innerguidancecanada #sayno #no #awakenintoyou #jenkleinca

A second principle of InnerGuidance is the need to discern and have the capacity to speak a true NO. The first word toddlers normally explore is NO. For parents, it feels like they are saying NO to EVERYTHING. This can make us feel out of control and our impulsive reaction is to tell them to STOP. We suppress their NO and unknowingly show them it’s wrong to say NO. ... What often happens? Our children grow up without learning how to discern for themselves what is a ‘true no’ (e.g. a healthy/necessary boundary) and what is a ‘false no’ (e.g. out of a false sense of protection). This leads to confusion. Often as adults our response to someone’s request becomes I don’t know or maybe with the default being a YES (which can cause resentment) instead of: To be honest, at this moment it’s a NO to your request because I need______ (e.g. more information or more time) in order to be open to the possibility of saying YES. Let’s face it, as adults, most of us are still trying to figure out when and how to say our ‘true NO’. Our skill/ability to set necessary boundaries hasn’t been fully developed because our true NO was stifled when we were trying to explore it in our youth. In addition, if you fell into the pattern of people pleaser at any point in your life to say NO will feel initially IMPOSSIBLE (more on that in another post!) This is where InnerGuidance uses specific tools to help us rehabilitate and discern our true NO... Continued in No! Part II #innerguidance #innerguidancecanada #no #sayno #awakenintoyou #jenkleinca

ACKNOWLEDGMENT Hi I see you... I hear you You are loved You are worthy You belong InnerGuidance focuses on 4 key principles for reconditioning our inner culture to create a new outer culture of living. One of these principles is acknowledgement. As adults, our reactions to ourselves and others begin (when we cultivate awareness) to uncover that we have unmet needs from our childhood. We may want to live in a blame or victim story against our parents or caregivers. So how do we find a way to move through this? With tools that build compassion and understanding for both ourselves and others. This opens us to the ability to accept that our parents could only parent from their level of consciousness at the time. With acceptance comes the invitation to release our parents from their inability to meet these needs FOR us. We can then take agency over our unmet needs and LEARN to meet those needs ourselves. This is EMPOWERMENT. We can also call it re-parenting, re-programming, re-setting. How do InnerGuidance tools help? You learn to create a new capacity to tap into your innate ability to fully see yourself exactly as you are, to fully hear and speak your evolving truth exactly as it is in that moment, to feel loved by YOU, and to embrace that you belong to YOU/the Universe. Once we have built this capacity within ourselves we open the gateway to being capable to fully acknowledge others, ESPECIALLY OUR CHILDREN. We create a new culture whereby we model to and support our children in learning how to acknowledge THEMSELVES. We nurture their ability to RECEIVE true and authentic acknowledgment from others. We show them that they are seen, heard, loved and worthy simply because they exist (and not because they have achieved something external). The tools I use to help clients tap into ACKNOWLEDGMENT of self and others, I also use with my own children. I also make it a habit to check-in by asking do you feel seen, heard and loved today/in this moment by yourself? By me? If the answer is no they are equipped with the language and capacity to tell me where there is a lack of acknowledgement and together we work through WHY. Amara Samata - IGI Founder

FREEDOM This video says it all... The first time experiencing freedom. ... The first time experiencing surrender. The first time experiencing complete trust. The first time feeling a depth of happiness that can only come from realizing what a miracle life is, even when it seems to be the opposite. You see, I’ve never been afraid to die...but I did spend most of my life afraid to fully live! My fearlessness and love of extreme adrenaline led me to Spain to take the Accelerated Free Fall (AFF) course. This is where I met the most incredible instructor (love you, Ulli Schneider). After skilfully stepping me into assisted jumps I finally jumped solo. This was the first time during the course that fear hit my system. My mind realized I was allowing myself to experience a feeling of out of control"...a feeling I had carefully protected and managed myself against in life. Panic flooded my system and I rapidly tumbled through the sky. Each second caused more panic in my mind and tension in my body. Spiralling, spiralling...EVERYTHING feeling so out of control. Until I locked eyes with Ulli and realized my only choice was to relax into this unknown feeling of "no control". I had no choice. True SURRENDER Paradoxically, everything stopped spiralling and a new experience of ease and flow happened. My system naturally orientating itself. So I post a video of my next jump when I relaxed into the FREE FALL.... Here’s what it took: every amount of TRUST in myself and the Universe to FREE FALL in a more graceful way. practice, commitment, and dedication to facing any fear - known or unknown. a massive dose of SURRENDER. Getting out of my own way so that finally there was no me to surrender. Perhaps this is what life actually is? A continuous free fall, with no orientation of up, down, left or right. A continuous free fall that requires total SURRENDER and TRUST in each moment as we navigate the paradox in which we live - LIFE itself. Choice, no choice. Control, no control. It’s all the same. #skydiving #skydivergirl #freefall #surrender #trust #fearless #awakenintoyou #jenkleinca

I FULLY LOVE THE PERSON I AM WHEN I’M ALONE But I had to build the CAPACITY within me to compassionately love ALL sides/aspects of me. When I’m alone, I witness and give FULL permission to any part of me that is choosing to fall away and to any part of me that is seemingly arising. ... Using discernment and genuine curiosity, I explore and discover who I am and who I am becoming. There are tools to cultivate this capacity within yourself... I would love to share them with you . . . #jenkleinca #awakenintoyou #innerguidance #loveyou #loveyourself #alone #loveoverfear #acceptance #acceptyourself

I won’t be wishing you a ‘Happy’ New Year. I can’t buy into the illusion anymore - that one year is better than another. Here’s my truth- 2020 happened. ... And 2021 will be what it will be. To label it as anything other than what it is...another new beginning (like every single moment already is in life) feeds the ego’s lust for suffering by living in the duality of good and bad. It perpetuates the false expectation that we must be happy all the time otherwise we are failing in life. &$@% that! Sometimes I’m really unhappy. And I am NOT failing at life!! So, here’s what I CAN wish you. Endless and graceful opportunities: TO TURN WITHIN...no matter how scary, unknown, exciting, overwhelming and unfamiliar that may feel. For this, I wish you COURAGE. TO LOSE EVERYTHING...that is false, that limits you from being YOU, that feeds the fears of illusion, that perpetuates the old stories - I am not enough, I am not worthy, I am not loved, I do not belong, I am not heard, I am not seen...I have to play small. For this, I wish you STRENGTH. TO FIND NOTHING... I can’t explain this to you other than this is the space where we realize that we are a void of infinite potential. A spark of light that will continue...that was never born and that never dies. For this, I wish you HUMILITY. TO FIND EVERYTHING...I can’t explain this to you other than this is the space where the heart breaks itself fully open and re-connects to the bigger love beyond us. This is where we remember our ONENESS with everything. For this, I wish you TRUST. And I will hold you in my heart as you meet these opportunities. It’s the only gift I can truly give you. My love. My support. And so I offer that to you now. Whether you choose to receive it from me and, most importantly, from yourself... is in your hands, not mine. 2021...another year. Another moment. Another beginning. It’s already here! #transformationalcoaching #jenkleinca #love #support #coaching #newyear #newbeginnings #allwehaveisnow #allwehaveislove #infinitepotential

Crash Into Me As a young child I felt very connected to a Big Love that was beyond me. It was an expansive, indescribable Love beyond the human heart that I felt for EVERYONE. It was simply connection to Oneness. I never questioned this Love. There was a deep knowing that this was just a part of who and what I (and everyone else) was. ... It was around the time in the 2nd photo that the schism or disconnect from my true self began to occur. Life experiences began to create the protective self that formed the core belief: to love from this space of expansive Love is dangerous. To the protective self, this disconnect from the spiritual heart wasn’t enough, so she slowly began to build walls and barriers around the human heart too. Eventually, not many people were invited into this vulnerable space. Confusingly, there were times she chose the ones that would break her heart, not realizing that this was all part of the healingto keep breaking the human heart until it could finally break itself open again. As an adult, chipping away at the layers of this protective stone was a painful inner journey of TRUST, VULNERABILITY, COMPASSION, and FORGIVENESS. And it took TIME. Until one day, there was a readiness in my system that I wasn’t even aware of. It took both a miracle and a team of incredible first responders, but the RE-CONNECTION back to the spiritual heart and a remembrance of Oneness that I knew as a child finally happened. As for the human heart, well, it felt like someone had taken a boulder and finished what I had started years ago, by smashing it into tiny pieces! As for any unknown leftover pieces - they require even more trust and self love in order to fully disintegrate. And this can only be done by standing strong yet vulnerable in the truth of BEING Love. Willing to love even if and especially when my Love is not received. Why? Because I trust, again, that it’s safe to Love Big from the human heart and beyond. #awakenintoyou #love #loveyourself #loveyou #heart #oneness #innerchild #jenkleinca #awakening #awaken #spiritualawakening

What does true connection look like? Many of my clients fantasize about what connection with their children will or should look like based on the parents interests and not necessarily the child’s. Parents can also unknowingly project onto their children their own unmet need of how they wanted connection to look like with their parents. The parent then unconsciously tries to meet their unmet childhood need for connection through their children. ... What are the possible consequences of these fantasies and projections? Your child may feel even less connected to you because the connection is not authentic for them. Wow... perhaps connection with our children isn’t as easy as we imagined! In my own life, I played competitive sports and fantasized that this was how I would connect with my children - mostly because playing sports was within my comfort zone. Turns out neither of them seek connection with me in this way right now. It took me awhile to understand that the connection they wanted to receive from me was based on THEIR interests and a desire to TEACH me something. I realized that if I wanted an authentic connection with them I had to change how I was offering connection. I vowed to get very curious about the child in front of me - what are they really interested in and how do they WANT to RECEIVE connection from me? I invite you to explore your relationship to connection: How do you authentically connect to yourself (in big ways and in small ways) each day? How do you authentically connect with your child (in big ways and in small ways) each day? Is this how they WANT to receive connection from you? Be brave and ask your child: what does your ideal connection with me look like? #connection #connectwithyourself #authentic #consciousparenting #consciousparentingcoach #transformationalcoach #jenkleinca #awakenedfamilies

I found this letter my son wrote to himself - it was in his work binder he brought back from school (he’s 7 yo). Dear Jake, I am sorry I did not get to see you today. Always remember to be you. Do not tell yourself to be different or someone else. Be you.... I’m just going to leave that truth here for all of us to sit with... #consiousness #consciousparenting #beyou #beyourself

I was recently asked: what is working really well for you right now? My answer: #motherhood Want to know WHY?... Because I let go of #perfection and freed myself from the #illusion that I could ever be (or want to be) a perfect mother (or human!). This gave me permission to show up for myself and my children with more authenticity and humbleness. Unburdening myself of this perfection protection mechanism made motherhood more #fun Suddenly, I was able to find #joy in being curious and childlike in my nature again. I wasn’t so uptight and serious all the time!! And the feedback showed me that this is what my children really needed from me... To be REAL and IMPERFECT and a lot more FUN! I was also asked: what does #consciousparenting look like within your family? it DOES NOT mean that the dynamics between us are always harmonious! It DOES mean that we have created and cultivated a deep sense of trust within ourselves and each member to freely speak our truth (note: we are however refining how we deliver this truth so that our words are as compassionate and intentional as possible!) and to show up exactly as we are NO MATTER WHAT that looks like in each moment. Believe me...it ain’t always pretty but it’s real. it DOES mean that we have learned to consciously negotiate our wants and needs - taking responsibility for meeting our own needs where possible and making clear golden requests for help in meeting our needs when necessary (the art of conscious negotiation and requesting is a tool I teach clients) it DOES mean I sometimes want to pull my hair out or beg them to STOP! as they relentlessly wind each other up! it DOES mean that I repeatedly say pause to myself as soon as I recognize I’m about to pounce into reaction rather than aligned response (another tool I teach my clients)! It does mean that these moments, as so beautifully captured in these photos, seem to be fewer and far between as they grow older. But when they do choose to hold each other in this way... I pause, take a deep breath of gratitude, relish in the moment.. and then it’s gone #consciouscoaching #consciousparentingcoach