Beyond Senses Into Infinity

"A girl should be two things: who and what she wants." Coco Chanel. Art by Lainey Molnar

I often reflect on my various stages of healing with narcissistic relationships and I can only be grateful for the practice. If you are dealing with someone who is a narcissist or has narcissistic traits, the best way you’ll be able to cope with this is to really understand how they operate. A narcissistic or narcissistic traited person, loves the fight. It’s their supply. Even though it often makes them feel guilty, they usually have anxiety or health issues and often become... controlling. They are not okay with just a fight. When confronted, others get scratched and bruised but that not enough for them, their unhealed issues become an intention to make you bleed. When we are in a protection mode it is very hard to have compassion for this awful pattern. Have you been in one? Do your research and homework. Again this is rarely about you but an internal conflict that is unresolved in them. You will never change them. Work on you. Find the ways you are trying to cope. Find a model that you can work with. Then eventually, graduate, stop working so hard, find love & release the pattern! You CAN do it! As above so below. You are so loved

Good morning As the recent themes have been around boundary setting. Some things we can control and many things, we can not. Where is your inner fire fighter trying to put out a fire? Of course your natural instinct is to find peace. When it comes to forgiveness, we often have to identify the triggers. When we are on the journey to forgiveness we often have to step back from those who are hurting us, maybe even repetitively, possibly long term or indefinitely. Defin...itely seek help and healing but understand that there are two parts to healing. One is internal and one is external. If the other person does not seem like they are accountable or willing to do the work alongside of you then all you can do is release the internal, often (childhood) wound. To reprogram the message that you are difficult, not worthy of being heard or not worthy of being understood or that your needs were not valid, are all an example. If you have been on this path for so long already but the behavior continues, then I’ve recommended to many clients it’s best to just stop letting them into your life. If this is family related, of course this can be extremely difficult. Do the work anyway and do what you feel is necessary to truly feel peaceful and happy anyways. This is not about you. It is not your job to facilitate peoples joy. So use that serenity prayer, find your best resources. Know that you are truly free and you do not have to tolerate the behavior. Forgive yourself for letting this happen over and over and eventually you may find forgiveness for their own unhealed aspect. It is not your job to make everyone happy, nor are you responsible for their root cause of pain but it is your job to find that truth of joy within yourself. Find gratitude today for all of your toughest teachers. Always, they have a lesson too. You can lead a horse to water but my no means can you make them drink. Where is your joy today? https://youtu.be/wecPRCfxR_g